Wow, talk about stress-city. I can imagine how you are feeling. The pressure is enormous on you right now. I also had an alomost step kid previously and that alone is a lot of stress, not to mention that you are pregnant. Give yourself a break. You aren't super-woman, and don't feel guilty for wanting alone time with your man. Many therapists voice the opinion that for a happy marriage, the marriage should come before the kids. Theory being that children thrive when the parental relationship is at its most stable. Talk to M and ask him to consider a weekend without the kids. Tell him how you've been feeling about the lack of alone time. He should understand. Also (just a personal thing here) you tell him that if your back scratching isn't bloody good enough he can go outside and rub himself against a bloody tree. That's how the bears do it!! (sorry but I thought his bitching about the back scratch was very juvenile). Anyways, lotsa hugs:) Hope things get better soon!
That sounds exactly like a routine day for Moe and I for the past week or two. I dont know if its me or him, but its just fight after fight. Like, just this afternoon, he bitched at me because I didnt have a job and he was stuck with all the bills to pay. Doesnt he know I'm trying my best but in this situation its quite difficult. And then when I said I had found a way to be able to pay off a part of every phone and credit card debt. Took 3 hrs of not speaking to each other before he just replies "I love you" very randomly. It was like he didnt even mean it and it was just this sort of half meant apology. I ignored him and it kept going til dinner time when I just gave up on everything. You know what, if he wants to be like that, then fine, I'll just shut up about everything and never give my opinion on anyting ever again. He never even takes my advice anyway. Blah!
I know how those days go. *hugs* We ended up having a good chat in the car as we went to go pick up the kids. A LONG chat. Everything was settled in those 2 hours. There were more tears but we were able to explain our sides and what we felt was going on. He was exhausted. So exhausted that he slept for 10h fri to sat, and sat to sun! Its no excuse for what happened, but appologies were made and we are doing great now! :) I can understand the hard to find a job when you are 21 weeks pregnant! You could only work for the next 3-4 months max!
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Also (just a personal thing here) you tell him that if your back scratching isn't bloody good enough he can go outside and rub himself against a bloody tree. That's how the bears do it!! (sorry but I thought his bitching about the back scratch was very juvenile).
Anyways, lotsa hugs:) Hope things get better soon!
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