distraction good. Another thing I'm learning is what my counsellor called a 'safe place' - something for me (it was fandom but as she pointed out, the wank make it less safe for me and I had to find an alternative) - I journal how I feel (with pen and paper - but that is my choice) and she suggested to maybe work on my original (i.e. not fandom related) novel that has been languishing - another grounding stone for me is my faith - and yes, I need all that without actually having depression but to deal with the issues I face in my life on an emotional level
I hope that maybe on of the things may be a tool for you, this was not just about me mouthing off
(I'm gonna miss her when I leave this job - and I enjoy Miracle Day too)
Thank you. I know from things I've seen in your journal that you have a lot to deal with and I appreciate your comments really. I wouldn't think it was just you mouthing off. The comment about wank actually adding to it and making fandom less safe is a really good one that I hadn't condsidered. I try to keep away from the worst of it and not get drawn in, but I shall redouble my efforts, because you are right; if my safe place is getting me angry and het up then I'm onto a loser from the start!
My faith has, sadly, been failing me a bit over the last few years, or more to the point I am failing it so I'm not taking as much comfort from it as I used to.
Thank you for reading and commenting; it is appreciated.
she put into words what I was thinking after watching it on Thursday alongside Twitter (Jane Espenson the writer was also tweeting) and why I felt so upset about other people's negative reactions
don't just avoid it... find a NEW safe place that does not rely on other people's opinion
Faith takes effort (my son is very good at being 'dizzy' or 'headachy' just when I want to go - funnily he wasn't dizzy once we actually got to church today) - I've been a born again Christian longer than I've been a fan and I bank on it being there long after fandom fizzles out for good - but yeah, it takes an effort to go and focus on someone bigger than me, though that is also incredibly comforting. As you say, I've got stuff to deal with and yet I also see him living up to the promise: 'I will supply your needs' (not his fault I want my WANTS met too *grins*)
Fandoms and shows are wonderful distraction and ALWAYS work for me. You know I'm totally with you with Sirens, and I still watch Torchwood, if only for the awesomeness of Jack (and yeah, Oswald is so perfectly creepy!). I hope you get better (or at least stay at a point where you feel you can still control what's happening with you, if that makes any sense?)
Also, I'm just wondering: What exactly is this "comfort break" they're always having? I googled it and found it's just toilet break, but the way they use it seems to me like it has a special meaning.
A comfort break does mean a toilet break, but when a crew is on duty unless they are on a meal break they are mostly expected to be on a call or out on cover, which is normally sitting by the roadside in a strategic place that means they can get to a wide area as quickly as possible when a call comes in, rather than having all the vehicles in the base. The only way a crew can get a bit of restbite is to ask for a comfort break - you can't stop a crew using a toilet! So sometimes when a crew wants a few minutes to sort something out they will call in to control for a comfort break, bascially buying themselves a bit of time at base. Similarly if you are in control and you know a crew has been hammered but you now have a lot of vehicles available you might call them up and suggest that they might need a comfort break and the crew suddenly realises that, yes, they do. It's a sneaky way of getting round the system and looking after your crews for a few minutes.
Oh, THANK you so much for explaining! I was always wondering, but now it makes perfect sense. It always sounded to me like they'd call in a break to cuddle :)
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*Hugs you super-duper hard*
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Thank you for the hugs.
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I hope that maybe on of the things may be a tool for you, this was not just about me mouthing off
(I'm gonna miss her when I leave this job - and I enjoy Miracle Day too)
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My faith has, sadly, been failing me a bit over the last few years, or more to the point I am failing it so I'm not taking as much comfort from it as I used to.
Thank you for reading and commenting; it is appreciated.
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don't just avoid it... find a NEW safe place that does not rely on other people's opinion
Faith takes effort (my son is very good at being 'dizzy' or 'headachy' just when I want to go - funnily he wasn't dizzy once we actually got to church today) - I've been a born again Christian longer than I've been a fan and I bank on it being there long after fandom fizzles out for good - but yeah, it takes an effort to go and focus on someone bigger than me, though that is also incredibly comforting. As you say, I've got stuff to deal with and yet I also see him living up to the promise: 'I will supply your needs' (not his fault I want my WANTS met too *grins*)
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You know I'm totally with you with Sirens, and I still watch Torchwood, if only for the awesomeness of Jack (and yeah, Oswald is so perfectly creepy!).
I hope you get better (or at least stay at a point where you feel you can still control what's happening with you, if that makes any sense?)
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What exactly is this "comfort break" they're always having? I googled it and found it's just toilet break, but the way they use it seems to me like it has a special meaning.
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It always sounded to me like they'd call in a break to cuddle :)
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But yay for fandom being a refuge!
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