Yay to new Friends!!

[jmillfades]

So I made new friends on here, I was SUPER excited to be getting messages from people, it really made my day!! Which I desperately needed, because these kids were kicking my ass today. A few morbid, and disturbing scenes popped into my head of what I wanted to do to them, but in the end I gave thanks to whatever force of nature is out there that I

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[rubyelf]

My journal was public for the same reasons... until I started getting publicly attacked by total strangers on it.

[jmillfades]

What? That's ridiculous, sometimes people are ridiculous. That makes me mad! I'm sorry people are stupid.

[rubyelf]

Unfortunately, pretty much all of my friends on LJ have made their journals friends-only over the years for exactly the same reason. If it's public, random strangers will come around and leave mean-spirited comments. Several of them have had people steal their photos of themselves and their kids and use them on their own sites, pretending it was them.

[jmillfades]

Wow, that's pretty crazy. Who knows one day I might go to private for that reason, but for now I'll keep it. Thank you though, I've been forwarned and that completely sucks that it happened to you and your friends!! I feels.

[webgirluk]

I loved reading your take on privacy and how you stopped being a slave to it and I relate a lot to it. I think upbringing is/was a big part of my holding back too in the "we are private people" sense and I too struggled to open up. Whilst I know I did mention some things I don't discuss on LJ in that post I wrote, there's so many open topics that I DO now discuss like shyness, anxiety, being proud of my non conventional beliefs and owning them etc. I think people being more open heightens awareness of life diversity in a way and LJ helped a lot with this. I still struggle in ways with opening up in some social contexts but on here I would consider myself to be open.

I get excited by meeting new friends here, too.

Would working with older children appeal more to you? At least they can wipe their own ass lol.

[jmillfades]

That's great and I love that, that your able to write/express how your feeling now. and I also struggle with being more open when I'm face to face with someone, I want to overcome that and be the person I truly am, because I do have a big mouth and I'm not afraid to use it, but I still feel afraid of others judging me and I feel ashamed of that.
I doubt working with any children older or not would help lol but thanks for looking out, I just don't think working with children was my calling, it was just something I happened to be doing since I was a kid and continued on into adulthood.

[blue_eye]

I am friends locked as well.

I'm not adverse to sharing, but there are some things I'd rather the general public not find out. During my time here on LJ, I have worked at a newspaper in NYC, I have owned a custom picture framing shop, worked at a collection agency, had a brief stint at another newspaper, did freelance writing, and began a career as a realtor. Each involved or involves customers, and I would rather they not find their way(s) into my private life.

As for my family, we had some things we supposedly were not supposed to talk about. Years later, I realized that most of the secrets were really people's "human-ness."

[jmillfades]

Yeah I can see why you could want to be more secured about your posting when it comes to your work. I'm pretty sure none of my co-workers would know what livejournal is, but than again I don't know. I know what you mean by human-ness, people are so paranoid about others judging them that they decide to keep little things a secret, but in actuality nobody cares.

[blue_eye]

Hey...we're all just extras in someone else's play!

[jmillfades]

I like it! But please explain further!

[nahele_101]

I like your idea for having a journal.
Free you!

The thing about online presences is that people can craft any image they want to with it. It's like how people get depressed looking at FB pics, and than hate on their own life. FB tends to show only "good" things, so someone who isn't so good on themselves might perceive that the world around them is better than they got. Something like that.

[jmillfades]

First off, running anything more than a mile sounds horrible to me but 24, and 26. whatever?!? That's insanity to me, but your more in shape so do able right? Second, it's funny actually because I'm writing a post about my online presence.

[tanyasue77]

SO much of our lives becomes jaded because of what people might think. I live in the "Bible Belt" so only a couple of people know certain things about me. It's not so much that I "care" about people judging me, it's that my reflection that would come back on my family members & that's what I worry about. People can think what they want of me, but I wouldn't want my own beliefs/lifestyle to cause problems for those I love. Being bi-curious is hard in this part of the country, people don't like anything different and if I were to give in to the part of me that says I'm a closet lesbian and further explore what I've held deep since probably 4th grade, my family would suffer due to those in power where they work etc. It's quite a shame, but it's true. I can't talk about it on FaceBook, because family, friends, mutual acquaintances dwell there, just looking to start rumors or trouble wherever they can .. you know.. those "Christian types" who do no wrong. So I keep it private and save it

[jmillfades]

I understand where your coming from, I'm a closet bi-sexual, because half my family is religious and if they are willing to cut ties with my brother who is a transgender, than they will be more than obliged to cut ties with a bi-sexual in a polyamorous relationship. I doubt anyone I know will come across this account, but if they do I hope they read every post and come to understand why I hid, and why I am the way I am.