Change Is Good?

[jinyo]

But as a rule, you can't change other people. You can only change yourself. Now, you're not going to listen to me, and I know this because the very act of giving unrequested advice like "you can't change other people, you can only change yourself" is an attempt to change someone, and it won't work. Which just proves my point

Comments

[solaria]

Err... what?

On a more serious note, I agree that you can't change other people. You may inspire them to change something about themselves, but only they can actually make the change.

Still, I have no clue what the context of this post is. Is there something behind it, are you trying to spark some debate/conversation, or are you just being random?

[scruffyrebel]

You can never tell with Jinyo o.O

It's a solid, thought-provoking little blurb...presumably randomly thrown out of his head until he says otherwise.

[slave_to_anime]

But isn't the statement a bit vague? I mean, can't change other people in what fashion

[jinyo]

The statement is very vague, and general.

<< even though you make the above argument, isn't there an implication that you don't completely believe your own statement

[slave_to_anime]

When getting down to innate elements of people, I'm more apt to agree. The first few points I was making was that English allows for so many loose interpretations of a statement when left intentionally vague. It's relatively hard to change other people's behaviors, beliefs, etc. It's relatively easy to change other people's physical form, and knowledge. Others' feelings fall somewhere in the middle of there. But of course, you meant the innate stuff, which is generally hard to change in others, so yeah, no disagreement. Disregard the fact that I'm not an english major.

And you do realize that the last set of statements could also be equally true by changing "can't" to "don't want to" and "other people" to "my underwear" too, right, especially after your little revelation. Change "You" freely to "I" if you want, it's all good. XD

[jinyo]

The fact that you don't want to change your underwear is likely to become the central theme when your name comes up for Drama Thursday.
You have been warned.

[fluttershy]

;.; but, jinyo, what if it`s for their own health?

[jinyo]

Health is a good reason for you to want him to change. But just because you want change for a good reason doesn't mean you will be able to. The most that you can hope for is that he will eventually decide that he wants to change himself.

Meanwhile, you have the option of changing yourself, and becoming more accepting of it, or at least not making it a point of contention. You find that option distasteful, don't you? Your impulse is to say, "No, I don't want to change in that way." Well this is the same reaction he has when you try to demand a change from him.

Imagine that he never changes. Suppose that there is no way he would stop doing what he does. Do you still want him? No one is perfect, and everyone will have things about themselves that you want to change. Can you live with this thing, or would you rather end the relationship? Even though you have his benefit in mind, if you keep fighting over it, the fighting will drive you apart.

[waynekaa]

change is good if it's alot of quarters and in my pocket.

[mognetcentral]

Wayne has clean laundry <3

[jinyo]

Do video arcade tokens count as change? They're good too...