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Aug 06, 2007 00:12

When does a child get too old to be an orphan? Is there an age limit? If you lose both your parents at the age of 18, are you an orphan, or an adult whose parents are dead? If you were an orphan and then you grow up, are you still an orphan or have you grown out of it ( Read more... )

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julia_bohemian August 6 2007, 07:44:35 UTC

I can't help thinking you must be asking this question for a reason.

If your parents die and you are a legal adult, you are technically not an orphan.

However, if you FEEL orphaned, your feelings are valid. But, your chances of being adopted by new parents, at that age, are rather slim.

-I think I told you about my relationship with my parents. I'm 30, but I have several surrogate Moms who fulfill that role in my life.
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jimmyblue August 6 2007, 20:30:41 UTC

Not really. I still have both parents. Hell, I have four parents now. Which isn't always that great, but it's better to have to many than to not have enough. Really, it was just really late and I was having those deep thoughts that seem kinda stupid the next day.

I've kinda worked out the basics, but I don't think you've ever directly told me about your parents.

julia_bohemian August 6 2007, 20:42:01 UTC

I didn't mean to imply that you weren't entitled to feel orphaned. I hope I didn't come off sounding calloused.

I thought I talked to you about something...but now I can't remember what.

No, it's nice that you have such deep thoughts. The world has enough shallow people in it. I was just talking with some...

jimmyblue August 6 2007, 21:17:08 UTC

No, no, no. My point was that I didn't have any reason feel orphaned. No callousness detected, seriously. I just didn't want anyone to think that I was being whiney about stuff when I'm lucky enough to not only have two parents but also two step parents. I agree that it's possible to feel orphaned even if you're not, but that's not my case.

We're obviously two people who both feel the need to apologise for everything. It's a vicious circle and I propose we end it now before things get ridiculous.

At least the deep thoughts keep things interesting. Nothing quite like lying in bed at night and suddenly being aware of your size as relative to the size of the entire universe and having a panic attack. As is stands, though, I welcome the silly, trivial thoughts as well.

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hugelaurie August 6 2007, 10:21:26 UTC

I THINK EVEN IF YOU HAVE OTHER THINGS GOING ON IN YOUR LIFE WHEN YOUR FOLKS DIE, REGARDLESS OF YOUR AGE, YOU STILL FEEL THE VOID.

shoedog August 8 2007, 03:52:19 UTC

I AGREE W/HUGE.

MY MOM IS STILL HERE, I'M LUCKY. THOUGH SOMETIMES I WANT MY MOMMY AND REALIZE I DON'T ACTUALLY WANT MY MOMMY BECAUSE SHE'S FUCKING CRAZY BUT I STILL WANT A MOMMY.

g0ldenr0ad August 6 2007, 12:59:38 UTC

I don't think you're ever too old to be an orphan. I think that no matter how old you are when your parents die, you feel like you're seven. It leaves the same void in your life, regardless of age.

As adults, we may say that we don't need our parents, but we do.