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[jiasachan]

Ahahaha. Totally managed to forget that it's National Coming Out Day today.

In light of that, for those of you who haven't picked up on this yet, I haven't the faintest idea. I like boys. I'm still not clear on the subject of girls. I don't worry about it much, since I know it's pretty much a non-issue either way for everyone whose opinion

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[rainbowjehan]

It is? Oh, well. XD

See, now, based on your age, that makes sense for me. >_> I still find it surreal that so many people are so sure of their sexuality already. I mean--I cannot go out on this tangent without sounding sceptical of homosexuality, so I won't. But I sure as heck don't know what I am yet. ^^ --And I didn't know. :D

Oh, blah. >__________< Is there anything there's any chance I could help with?

[jiasachan]

Apparently. XD

I guess maybe some people's attractions are more clear-cut? I mean, I'm a pretty firm believer in the Kinsey scale -- I definitely think it's a continuum, and sexuality doesn't consist of just "straight, gay, bi." It's possible to fit one of those categories, but I don't fit them perfectly, I don't think, and I don't bother figuring out where on the scale I'd fall just because I don't think it should matter. I mean, I'd like to be sure, but I don't see a point in stressing out over it, so I don't try to figure it out. So maybe some people fit those categories more neatly and that's why they're able to identify themselves more firmly sooner, or maybe they're more convinced they should fit, or maybe they care more than I do about where they fall on the scale and so they devote more thought to figuring it out. Or something. I don't know. I also think it's easy for me to be confused because my dad's bi and always seems like he wants someone else in the family to be, too, so he'll feel like it's less of an issue, and that

[rainbowjehan]

I guess so. I mean--my friend Taira, she knew she was gay when she was twelve. That just is scary to me, because I wouldn't even try to know at that age. I don't know the Kinsey scale. ^_^ Now I want to. --That's true, though. There are so many determining factors that would make it hard to know completely, and-- by the way, there are way too many parents who would kill their children for being gay. It makes me want to go around and preach the Gospel According to Soujin (and Jesus). --You did! XD That's okay. I--think I am bi, possibly. I go all squirmy inside at both boys and girls. I've had almost entirely all my crushes on girls, but I think maybe that's because I'm a hormone-ridden teenager who has to be crushing on someone, because that's just natural; and I don't know any boys. At all. None. So I assume, perhaps wrongly, that that might be why so far I've never had any crushes on boys. On the other hand, I fangirl actors and actresses for their hotnesses about equally. And I seem to have a girlfriend, although I don't know for

[jiasachan]

I dunno, my friend Matt said he's sort of known forever -- I mean, since he was, like, six. Before he was really sexually aware. He didn't know what it was, but he was aware of something. Which makes sense to me, and occasionally I think I remember feeling the same, but then I'm not sure, because I don't remember much before the age of twelve or so, really. I keep forgetting that the Kinsey scale isn't as widely known as I think it is. XD It's a continuum of sexuality -- 0 through 6, 0 being totally heterosexual and 6 being totally homosexual, making 3 dead-center bisexual. It's very helpful for helping explain to people that there aren't just three sexual orientations and it's much more complicated than that, but if you listen to my dad there's a lot more to it than that, even. Which make sense to me, but then it gets into confusing details about homosexuality vs. homosociality, and it's way over my head

[silverdragon262]

I thought about making an entry for today, but it would read a little bit like this. With some 'auogajkbakjbnaj wtf gender binaries!?' thrown in for good measure.

So yay for those of us who lack labels. ♥

[jiasachan]

Hurrah!
I think if anyone ever asks me my sexual orientation again, I'm going to say, "I fall somewhere between one and six on the Kinsey scale" and smile really big. XD

[silverdragon262]

That's not a bad idea. XD No one's ever asked me, which is awkward. I've been named as the token straight person recently and whenever happens I'm just kind of like '...' because-- how do I respond to that? It makes me uncomfortable.

[jiasachan]

I guess people just ask me because they see me being cuddly with female friends. XD And then they're like "So, are you just really huggy, or . . . ?" And then I don't really know what to tell them except "Well, I'm not dating her. But beyond that? It's complicated."

Generally explaining this get really difficult, and it's kind of uncomfortable to attempt it. But I find a "Please don't make assumptions" works all right. Except for how it tends to lead to more assumptions, so -- maybe not the best idea after all.