Excellent, as they should be coming up but with the flexible deadlines for my coursework, I may do them over Christmas, as I have 17 consecutive days off work booked!
No! Sorry if that is not clear, the most he tends to sleep in one block before waking up is 3 hours, although he can go weeks without doing that! Last December, we had a whole month where he slept for 45 minutes at a time, then had to be put back to sleep and then 45 minutes later, the same! It was maddening!
Thanks, Chris! I am definitely better at reading and commenting than posting at the moment!
He got better after about 3 weeks... and is just in the final stages of fighting off a similar vomiting bug at the moment. Trouble is, he has now given it to Toni...
I used to rub the back/head of mine until he went to sleep.. but there's a lot written about this.. all comes down to what you want to do I guess...
Need to be careful about what kind of conditioning we end up choosing for them... luckily for me mine ended up sleeping through the night after about 4 months..
Totally agree, that's why I won't to respond to my child when he is unhappy, so they develop trust that I am there for them:
"The fact is that caregivers who habitually respond to the needs of the baby before the baby gets distressed, preventing crying, are more likely to have children who are independent than the opposite (e.g., Stein & Newcomb, 1994). Soothing care is best from the outset. Once patterns of distress get established, it's much harder to change them."
Because if he trusts in me being there when he is trouble, he is far more likely to be bold and independent, as he knows his parents have his back all the time.
The fact that you study/practice counseling must be why you ask such insightful questions and have had good advice about my current situation. Your patients (not sure if that's the correct term) are lucky to work with you!
I'm glad that raising Travis is bringing you and Toni closer together. Having kids is probably the most life-changing thing ever, and it could definitely go the other way, so it's a real testament to the strength of your relationship and your willingness to work through anything and support each other. It's a beautiful thing. :)
Part of the Counselling thing is that we don't advise as such, we often paraphrase and use what you say (you might now be looking out for that in my comments now!) to give you a new perspective. Having said that, LJ isn't Counselling and I do give opinions too (where I think you might want them!)
Cheers, it undoubtedly is life-changing and now I can see fully why so many relationships fail after having kids.
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No! Sorry if that is not clear, the most he tends to sleep in one block before waking up is 3 hours, although he can go weeks without doing that! Last December, we had a whole month where he slept for 45 minutes at a time, then had to be put back to sleep and then 45 minutes later, the same! It was maddening!
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Good to hear some you. I would definitely agree on the sleep deprivation as torture.
Has Travis’ health issue stabilized?
Congratulations on the real world counseling work. That must be very fulfilling.
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He got better after about 3 weeks... and is just in the final stages of fighting off a similar vomiting bug at the moment. Trouble is, he has now given it to Toni...
Thanks again! Yes, it absolutely is.
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Need to be careful about what kind of conditioning we end up choosing for them... luckily for me mine ended up sleeping through the night after about 4 months..
https://www.psychologytoday.com/au/blog/moral-landscapes/201112/dangers-crying-it-out
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"The fact is that caregivers who habitually respond to the needs of the baby before the baby gets distressed, preventing crying, are more likely to have children who are independent than the opposite (e.g., Stein & Newcomb, 1994). Soothing care is best from the outset. Once patterns of distress get established, it's much harder to change them."
Because if he trusts in me being there when he is trouble, he is far more likely to be bold and independent, as he knows his parents have his back all the time.
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Sleep dep is indeed a mind altering substance and a torture device.
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I'm glad that raising Travis is bringing you and Toni closer together. Having kids is probably the most life-changing thing ever, and it could definitely go the other way, so it's a real testament to the strength of your relationship and your willingness to work through anything and support each other. It's a beautiful thing. :)
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Part of the Counselling thing is that we don't advise as such, we often paraphrase and use what you say (you might now be looking out for that in my comments now!) to give you a new perspective. Having said that, LJ isn't Counselling and I do give opinions too (where I think you might want them!)
Cheers, it undoubtedly is life-changing and now I can see fully why so many relationships fail after having kids.
That's a lovely way of putting it, ta :)!
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