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[jbmcdragon]

First, I'd just like to say that Ivan E. Coyote (no, I don't know why Ivan has three pages. Roll with it.) is an amazing author. Ivan writes slice of life stories, sometimes about trans/butch/lesbian things, sometimes just about life things. They are amazing, and continually make me tear up. Go read.

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[trishalynn]

[jbmcdragon]

*laughs!* Okay, that is hilarious. *grins* I hope you weren't useless at work though -- or if you were, it was a good mental-health thing. *hugs*

*grins* I should clarify to say publishing and blogging for an audience. *grins* THough it's definitely true that the numbers of women are growing in authoring and blogging. (Though, still, if I think of the paying bloggers for any big site... I think of a lot more men than women. :()

J

[pollymel]

Heh. Thanks. You've got me thinking about my queer identity, which is about as tangled up as my general identity. Femme/Butch androgenous, what?

But yes, I'm enjoying your discovery, and it's making me think about me. Which is something I love doing, of course.

[jbmcdragon]

*laughs!* I'm not sure if I should say "you're welcome" or apologize. ;-D Uh, link hop? ;-D

Thank you! :D ANd thinking about yourself is always awesome. ;-D

J

[beachlass]

"I'm a top, I swear!"

*laughs and laughs and laughs*

eta -

Ivan E. Coyote made me swoon a little. And there's a free book download here.

[darksideofstorm]

You are AWESOME. *downloads with glee*

[jbmcdragon]

I know! That cracked me up. :D

Ivan -- Isn't ze AWESOME? Ivan makes me swoon a little, too. >.> And YAY! Thank you! :D I also went and ordered Femmes of Power off half.com today. It should come in a few days. THanks! :D

J

[petit_baobab]

Sry, I'm one of yr fic readers. (Love yr writing, by the way.)

I find it-- odd to see people talking about "taking care of yrself" as girly and as practical or being able to rescue yrself as opposed to girly. Not sure I'm explaining myself correctly, but it's almost-- How do I say this? Like a really, really traditional way of looking at yrself within a "different" structure, or something. It's applying the same old polar opposites, but in a benign way. I'm not sure if they really exist for all people, though, or if being conscious of yr inclinations makes you solidify into that. (I'm thinking of clay, or something. ha!)

It's totally cool if you don't want to talk about this with a complete stranger. Just struck me as kind of odd and deja vu-ey, so.

[jbmcdragon]

Hi! And thanks

[petit_baobab]

Not the general care and feeding of the self, but the extreme consciousness of the physical appearance and the care thereof. ;)

Yeah, but that's such-- crap, isn't it? I don't know. I've noticed that gender stereotypes are just complete bullshit. They have no basis on reality. Or maybe I live in AU and in my part of reality people never conform to stereotypes and taking on the feminine or masculine roles (in a heterosexual or gay relationship) is a bit like wearing a rly ethnocentric version of a Halloween "ethnic" costume (redundant?). Like, I dunno. Sexy Pocahontas and Fabio-like Smith? lol

but the idea that you can be feminine or masculine if you so desire, even in a gay lifestyle, does appeal to me.

Why do you think that is? To recreate what you know? Does it feel safer? Maybe it just feels right for you and it's as simple as that and per'aps safer is part of that, but-- heck. What fits fits.

*laughs* I'm always cool with talking with complete strangers! It's how we become not-strangers, after all. :D (And I could always f'

[jbmcdragon]

but that's such-- crap, isn't it?The short answer - no. And claiming that gender roles are inherently fake invalidates the people who feel most comfortable in them, just as claiming they are all-important invalidates those people who don't feel comfortable in them