Ooooh, I'm going to get -so- shot for posting this. I don't agree with -everything- here, but there's some interesting commentary, and some valid points.
Oh, he's definitely on to something. That's really similar to the reasons why I strongly distance myself from the modern concepts of "feminism" and despite tending towards some masculine personality traits, am reluctant to call myself a "tomboy".
Basically, both of those terms represent a person trying to be something they aren't. It's one thing if your personality is just naturally the sort inclined towards things more typically associated with guys, it's another if you're deliberately trying to mimic them every chance you get.
I tend to avoid wearing skirts and such, but I'm also choosy about pants for the same reason- I prefer to have plenty of pockets for putting things in. But unlike some people I know I'm not against wearing a dress, and am quite well aware that I can look good in one. It's just a matter of what happens to be comfortable to wear. Similarly with cosplay I go for a combination often of an outfit I like, as well as a character that is actually interesting enough to cosplay. Much of the time, this ends up
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::pat pat:: You aren't going to get shot, Izuko-kun. You are correct. What the poor author hasn't done is meet with conservative women. Now some of us are recovering from a barrage of feminism, but for the most part we are not "one of the girls," we are a group of ladies. And I personally like being one of the ladies.
That is much of what I was going to say. I will add that the author paints American women with a very, very broad brush and makes too many assumptions. Shame on him.
Where I would argue with the post was the portion where he talked about women enjoying being women. And it seems to me that he's right - except I'm not sure if he's using the same definition for "being a woman" as either of his two groups - and I'm pretty sure the Asian women's def wouldn't match that of the American women.
Perhaps the gals he meets don't like being *his* kind of women.
Or perhaps he needs to meet a wider variety of gals - and start by hanging out at places other than bars.
My aunts used to urge the young men of their aquaintence to try to meet girls in grocery stores or at the library. *shrugs*
The problem I see is that most women (that *I* know of) are *not* constantly looking - I mean, I'm looking, but only intermittedly. And on top of that, are touchy about being approached when *not* looking.
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Basically, both of those terms represent a person trying to be something they aren't. It's one thing if your personality is just naturally the sort inclined towards things more typically associated with guys, it's another if you're deliberately trying to mimic them every chance you get.
I tend to avoid wearing skirts and such, but I'm also choosy about pants for the same reason- I prefer to have plenty of pockets for putting things in. But unlike some people I know I'm not against wearing a dress, and am quite well aware that I can look good in one. It's just a matter of what happens to be comfortable to wear. Similarly with cosplay I go for a combination often of an outfit I like, as well as a character that is actually interesting enough to cosplay. Much of the time, this ends up ( ... )
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Where I would argue with the post was the portion where he talked about women enjoying being women. And it seems to me that he's right - except I'm not sure if he's using the same definition for "being a woman" as either of his two groups - and I'm pretty sure the Asian women's def wouldn't match that of the American women.
Perhaps the gals he meets don't like being *his* kind of women.
Or perhaps he needs to meet a wider variety of gals - and start by hanging out at places other than bars.
I dunno.
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Judging from my flist, the only answer I can come up with is "at home, watching Stargate."
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My aunts used to urge the young men of their aquaintence to try to meet girls in grocery stores or at the library. *shrugs*
The problem I see is that most women (that *I* know of) are *not* constantly looking - I mean, I'm looking, but only intermittedly. And on top of that, are touchy about being approached when *not* looking.
...Not much help, I know. Sorry.
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