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vampireanneke in intj

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Nov 03, 2005 10:27

I'm doing it AGAIN to myself. I have the INTJ flaw of 'being very sensitive to rejection from those with whom we have emotional ties'. I hate it when I do this, an it's a part of my INTJ character that shows out the most usually ( Read more... )

emotions, problems, relationships

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lynkemma November 3 2005, 18:36:17 UTC

I certainly recognise this. I've come to realise intellectually that exposing oneself to the risk of being hurt is probably better than cutting oneself off from people; however, realising something only intellectually does not really help that much :-/

Not very effective but... m_danson November 3 2005, 18:37:08 UTC

1) Show an uncharacteristically large amount of uncontrolled emotion.
2) Analyse.
3) Approach the situation with a rational plan.
4) Get misunderstood.
5) Show an uncharacteristically large amount of uncontrolled emotion.
6) Talk too much.
7) Analyse.
8) Act unilaterally to fix the situation.
9) Get misunderstood.
10) Wonder if maybe I was born on the wrong planet.

Re: Not very effective but... vampireanneke November 3 2005, 18:46:22 UTC

In other words we haven't come to a logical conclussion to fix this flaw yet. (grin)

Re: Not very effective but... m_danson November 3 2005, 18:51:06 UTC

*grin* Unfortunately many of the logical solutions (lobotomy, deserted tropical islands or world domination) have unwanted side effects.

That said, I wish I knew what to do. It sometimes surprises people that I can be so badly hurt when that wasn't what they expected from me. The best I've come up with is that risk and pain are a part of life and I'd be losing more by not taking the risk than by the occasional pain.

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siderea November 4 2005, 06:57:35 UTC

See, I found that one worked better the other way around.... :/

consistency in impartiality ich_schatzi November 3 2005, 18:58:16 UTC

Try to resist from aggregating negative thoughts in regards to the individual(s) involved. Accept that these ideas are impeding on your emotional stability and move beyond it. These things happen and it is important to live in the present. If I can't resolve the problem within myself like that, I simply pretend to do so until no vestige remains. The key is repetition...and a solid belief in your ability to work through these emotions.

deadmissbates November 3 2005, 19:07:43 UTC

Wow, I definately have that problem but I never knew it was an INTJ thing.