So stupid much going on that I can't really process it or fashion it into a coherent blog entry so I'll just sup on my mental stew for a while and throw out a dumpling every now and then
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Shame the therapy didn't work out - I got so much out of it when I did it and I wished the same for you.
Could it be that you didn't click with that particular therapist, because you do need to trust the individual on a basic instinctual level if you are to dare to open up your "innermost thoughts", and it sounds like you did the right thing if that relationship wasn't there.
If you still feel the process might be helpful, would you consider trying again with a different therapist, or perhaps a different therapeutic approach that would maybe suit you better?
On the Mooncup, as you know, I can only comiserate and agree!
You know, I'm really not sure. As soon as anyone starts speaking about 'honouring moments' and 'being in the space' and bah, anything therapy related, I switch off and shut down and clam up. I think it's more of 'me' issue than a particular therapist issue.
She was more like an older woman who was a friend, who you had no doubt was there to support you, but also asked all the right questions to get to the bottom of something, and very quickly sussed when I was trying to put her off the trail and established why, and why I might be doing that, and what that meant and whether it was a useful or a destructive pattern for me.
It was a bit like a problem solving partnership, and yet I was aware that she was about 80 x cleverer than me, and wouldn't let me get away with any old bullshit. There was no sense of being patronised, humoured or babied. The onus of the work was definitely on me, with her to facilitate, is the best I can describe it.
So I think it could possibly be totally different if you found someone more on your wavelength?
I do think it really depends where your head is at. I know, when I went to talk with my lady, she was dying to get her sticky claws into my parents and being orphaned so early. It really seemed like some juicy meat to her, every conversation was veered back to it, and I really didn't want to go there. It probably WAS the root of all my problems, but I still didn't want to go there.
Regarding the mooncup, when I was reading your first post initially, I thought, this potentially sounds like a good idea. By the time I finished, I was thinking, I'd be fully menopausal before I'd get my head around using that!!!
OMG I knew what that video was as soon as I saw the one frame. I have deep sentimental associations with that song. I can't tell you how many times I watched this when I lived in Seattle. You made my day, you! Strings ahoy!
Oh, yeah, sorry about the therapy. I have to say I wondered how it would work when you told us you were starting it, because you're not exactly known as the blabbermouth type. I, like you, would run away screaming from any talk of "'honouring moments' and 'being in the space' and bah, anything therapy related". Not all therapists are like that, though.
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Could it be that you didn't click with that particular therapist, because you do need to trust the individual on a basic instinctual level if you are to dare to open up your "innermost thoughts", and it sounds like you did the right thing if that relationship wasn't there.
If you still feel the process might be helpful, would you consider trying again with a different therapist, or perhaps a different therapeutic approach that would maybe suit you better?
On the Mooncup, as you know, I can only comiserate and agree!
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She was more like an older woman who was a friend, who you had no doubt was there to support you, but also asked all the right questions to get to the bottom of something, and very quickly sussed when I was trying to put her off the trail and established why, and why I might be doing that, and what that meant and whether it was a useful or a destructive pattern for me.
It was a bit like a problem solving partnership, and yet I was aware that she was about 80 x cleverer than me, and wouldn't let me get away with any old bullshit. There was no sense of being patronised, humoured or babied. The onus of the work was definitely on me, with her to facilitate, is the best I can describe it.
So I think it could possibly be totally different if you found someone more on your wavelength?
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ROTFL sorry but if I could find somebody... anybody on my wavelength, I really doubt I'd need the therapy to begin with ;)
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Regarding the mooncup, when I was reading your first post initially, I thought, this potentially sounds like a good idea. By the time I finished, I was thinking, I'd be fully menopausal before I'd get my head around using that!!!
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Yeah, that seems to be a key part of therapising someone LOL. I wasn't keen on it either.
The Mooncup probably really is a good idea for certain people, not for me though.
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Oh, yeah, sorry about the therapy. I have to say I wondered how it would work when you told us you were starting it, because you're not exactly known as the blabbermouth type. I, like you, would run away screaming from any talk of "'honouring moments' and 'being in the space' and bah, anything therapy related". Not all therapists are like that, though.
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I'm sure not all therapists are like that but well, I spent my trial run on this one LOL.
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