Comments | ilikerivers: Birth Story

ilikerivers

Birth Story

Oct 21, 2011 21:38

( full birth and brief pregnancy story, very long! )

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maggies_lens October 21 2011, 12:15:50 UTC

Fuck, I am SO never having one of those things...ever. NEVER!

liadlaith October 22 2011, 00:17:40 UTC

I am in total agreement. I'm sure it's all worth it if you want a child, but if you don't . . .

ilikerivers October 22 2011, 00:45:13 UTC

I totally didn't want to do it again when I was pregnant but two days after the birth I do want to do it again.

Yes it was very painful but it was also awesome. But I can understand not wanting to have kids or give birth and I don't judge the people who chose epidurals at all, I can see why people chose them for sure.

What bit sounds awful to you? All of it? I'm curious.

liadlaith October 22 2011, 00:51:27 UTC

All of it, including everything that comes after. I have nightmares about having to breastfeed.

I am just not interested in raising a child, so all of the crap that comes with having children---changing diapers, making them eat their greens, teaching them to say please and to protect themselves online---is unleavened by any of the benefits of having children, because there are no benefits for me.

But chilluns still need to be born and raised, so I am happy there are wonderful people like you, S and C who not only want to do it but are willing to.

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sweetgingertea October 21 2011, 12:35:55 UTC

Aww, I'm so glad to read this. I'm sorry it wasn't everything you had wanted, given the diagnosis, but I'm glad you had a good delivery and that you and Sophie are healthy and well. She's beautiful.

harnessphoto October 21 2011, 14:06:55 UTC

Not gonna lie... I would have punched that ultrasound tech.

infloresence October 21 2011, 16:16:10 UTC

Fuck yes. Ultrasound techs, in my experience, are full of comments when they shouldn't be. Many of them are punchable.

ilikerivers October 22 2011, 00:51:30 UTC

My midwife put in a formal complaint about him. I expected the pressure from the OBs, but not the fucking tech. I can't remember everything he said, it was a blur and I was on my own and kind of stressed out. But yeah, they aren't allowed to tell you anything medical, beyond 'everything looks fine' or 'speak to your doctor' 'that's this part of the baby' as far as I'm aware. They can tell you the sex but can't even guarantee that, they have to say 'it looks like a girl/boy'.

dreamsrundeep October 21 2011, 14:49:10 UTC

Loved reading this birth story. Happy for you all :) I know that when things don't go as planned it can be world-turning, but you handled this all with such fierce devotion to your little one. Love to you all!

ilikerivers October 22 2011, 02:30:52 UTC

I'm very proud of myself and my intuition and strength through all this and of S for her amazing support. We naturally induced our baby at home to avoid medical interventions and when I made up my mind we needed to have her really soon my waters broke within minutes and that's really something! Sophie is going to one hell of a person I think with that kind of entrance.

I love being called fiercely devoted! :)

Thank you so much. Lots of love to you all too.

infloresence October 21 2011, 16:17:15 UTC

Thanks for this. It was really great to read. In some ways I find reading birth accounts very personally therapeutic, so thankyou, and I'm really glad you guys can feel positive and strong even though the birth wasn't as you planned.

ilikerivers October 22 2011, 02:37:02 UTC

I think there's a huge power in sharing birth stories as well as miscarriage and stillbirth stories.

I do feel empowered and think that the mind-body connection and my intuition is really amazing. Yes, we had to fight for it, but we did it and having a normal birth was very important to me. There's a huge power in birthing for me and I do hope I can do it again one day in my own house.

I look forward to hearing your birth stories one day and hearing about April's siblings in a few years.