ramblings on a theme (but not by William Carlos Williams)

[iliachenvaar]

So, I'm a little conflicted. On the one hand, I kind of don't want to keep talking about wedding stuff, because I don't want to be boring and annoying, and because I don't want to spend too much time thinking about it and make myself all disappointed again just in case, and because I don't want to make Mike feel all pressured and unhappy. On the

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[zimboptoo]

I totally back you up on the whole "tossing things" thing. Especially the garter belt. If Mike objects, ask him how he would feel tossing his underwear into the crowd.

I'd be totally ok with being invited to catch the bouquet, but I wouldn't want to get in the way of someone who really wants to catch it. *grins*

[iliachenvaar]

Yeah, you were one of the first three that popped into my head. ^_^

[nebanebet]

I always have thought that the garter toss was kind of skeevy. About the bouquet toss, I just figured that anyone who didn't want to get married just wouldn't participate -- it's not like it's compulsory.

I like the idea of a joint boutonniere/bouquet toss, though!

[iliachenvaar]

I'm really glad someone thinks the same way I do about the garter toss.

The bouquet toss isn't compulsory for anyone over the age of eighteen. >_< That's about when it stops being cute for your relatives to make you go do it and starts becoming worrisome to them when you do do it. Before then, I distinctly recall being chivvied out to the bouquet toss by my family. Maybe that's just my family, though. And it's true that people who don't want to don't have to participate, but you notice they usually only ask for single women. And of course, in a lot of weddings there's the garter toss for men, but the garter toss is more about "Heh heh, let's throw the bride's underwear around and see who gets to grab it." You know? The undertones are completely different.

Anyway. End of feminist ramblings.

Bouquet/boutonniere toss FTW!

[suncatnin]

I think that the last wedding I attended, I hid in the bathroom during the bouquet toss because I was concerned that they were going to do that whole "guy who catches the garter puts the garter on the gal who catches the bouquet" with the whole idea of seeing how far up the leg they can get it. When I was planning a wedding, I point blank _refused_ to consider the garter toss. Of course, at the time, I also thought that garters were pointless and outdated, though I now wear them *g*

Regardless, I firmly agree with you.

[iliachenvaar]

*laugh. If you don't mind my asking, why did you start wearing garters?

[suncatnin]

Well, it's the thigh highs. It's actually more of the wearing of a garter belt, but I have been strongly considering garters if this new garter belt proves as frustrating as the last. I gave up on pantyhose years ago, but have recently discovered thigh highs and am much preferring them.

[iliachenvaar]

I've contemplated thigh highs occasionally. But I've tried knee-highs and they annoyingly always come down so I have to keep pulling them up just like pantyhose, so I've never been sure thigh highs would be any improvement either. Maybe that isn't actually a useful comparison, though. Never having worn thigh highs, I don't know. ^_^