Oow baby...

[iflie]

From I didn't know I was pregnant:

"Amazingly without any drugs D gives birth vaginally..."Myeah, human females have been giving birth for aprox. 100.000 years and suddenly it doesn't happen without drugs!? Though I have heard American programs claim similar things, how amazing it is that a woman would give birth without medical attention. (Maybe

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[iflie]

You've never seen De Bevalling!? It was on for years and seemed unavoidable when zapping. Pretty informative and raw. But yeah maybe for some people it's better not to know, hehe

[iflie]

I had an Ernie doll but I think that was more because we watched the show everyday. Swedish Chef was cooler. Miss Piggie was impressive.

And yups I added you back and because I don't do much with my profile I at least can stalk my friends in there hehe. And there are more people in your province on there than in mine.

We do seem to have a sort of munch or playmeeting around here. But meh what do I need with a bunch of old people who like to spank eachother with an audiance.

~Iflie

[thecaretaker]

I ofcourse had both Ernie and Bert, and Kermit I think, but it might have been my brother's. I'm not sure.

I'm not sure if I'll do much on there. It seems to be more a handy read-up/help site than a facebook for fetishists (Fetbook?) But yes, it's handy to have a place outside of lj to talk about that kind of stuff :p

You'd prefer to do the spanking in the safety of your own home, without old people googling over you? :p

[iflie]

My brother had Bert.

Fetlife is huge and it doesn't tend to have these types of conversations. But for reading it's pretty good and you do have specific profiles that tell you about the person and a list of groups they watch so you can kind of judge what they are into.

I;d like to take the spanking and the flogging and all the nasty fun stuff and keep it between me and my mate without someone else who has nothing to do with it being there. Nor do I like watching them get busy or even treating eachother like Dom and sub. It only makes sense in my head between two people.

~Iflie

[thecaretaker]

Yeah, as I said, it does appear more for reading and not for meeting people. But that's ok with me.

I'd like to keep that stuff privatish. It's not like some people don't know about certain preferences, but out in the open is a bit too much :p. And there is something naughty in doing it privately. Like a shared secret, which when you look at eachother you both immediately know what you're thinking about.

[iflie]

If you are reading enough you might see some people you like and that is a good way to have a valid reason to message someone. Well at least better than a profile that just has a few of the right labels.

I think I'd like to have some friends who I could share some things with but I don't need them there for my sex hehe. I don't see it as a secret but it is intimate. Even filling in my kinklist seems a bit much to just have out there. But at least without a picture it will be a bit less like a centerfold.

~Iflie

[thecaretaker]

We'll see how active I'll be on there. As I said, I apparently had joined before but it clearly didn't make a lasting impression on me as I had forgotten all about that.

With you being a girl you'll get attention without even filling in anything. "Girl Sub" is enough to make some people's mouth water :p

[iflie]

Well that's true, it doesn't even matter what they look like for some. Though with how the Doms look they shouldn't be that picky anyway lol.

But I guess the "I'm an easy lay" association that goes with sub girl is hard to shake.

~Iflie

[thecaretaker]

Hahaha. True, I did browse a bit and not all are pretty (but that goes for subs too).. but still physical attraction is part of attraction as a whole. The internet is a bit easier that way than meeting people face to face because you can easily put an imagined face to someone who you know nothing about.

And yes, subs are supposed to be subs.. so hence easy :p < /sarcasm>

[iflie]

There are lots of subs I am amazed by because they actually have a dom... and then I see the guy and well it all makes sense. hehe Though very often you get a sub that could do much better because the dom is old fat and ugly.

But well they make their own beds right. If they get carried away by the D/s then the simple reality of who they end up with is their own fault.

I was just reading the replies of a 30 something dutch master with a hot 18 year old sub in the US. They are listed as married yet he admits he's never physically been with her. Now that's a feat hehe. But she can't really know what she's in for, the guy mentioned he had trust issues because he'd spend two years in a place where you couldn't turn your back to the room because someone would knife you...I'm thinking foreign jail.

So while others haven't commented on that yet it does show how unrealistic the world of internet dating and BDSM can be. If she had the choice of regular guys around her they'd probably never had gotten together.

~Iflie

[thecaretaker]

Didn't look around that well yet, but I'll take your word for it for now :p. Online is easy in some respect, because you can kinda fake alot, or make it seem like you are more/better/experienceder(:p)/prettier/tougher than you actually are. And that is without faking it all together.

30, married and never been with your wife? I highly doubt it. But if she buys it her own fault. I'm highly suspicious of people claiming those 'tough guy' things.

I got a message from a 32 year old gorgeous blonde from California wanting to meet up... eeuuhhmm... no thanks :p

[iflie]

I am guessing they just put "married" in the profile because he is worried she will get approached by other guys, and she has strayed before and blamed it on her "natural born submissiveness". In a profile you can claim anything.

And lol what was wrong with the 32 year old blonde? Was she a hooker?

But there a lot of fakes out there who are just looking for wank material.

Oh and I was thinking how funny it would be to fill out my profile with what I'm really looking for. It would sound so different from most of the other profiles hehe.

Looking for: Lifelong relationship, Marriage, monogamy, young white guy
Dislikes: Public play, poly, sharing

(not that the messaging Doms would read that)

~Iflie

[thecaretaker]

Exactly. Which is why I generally don't trust profiles. I prefer to talk to people and get to know them that way. Not as easy to fake stuff that way.

Nothing wrong with a 32 year old blonde. But she was living in California and wanted me to give her my email address so she could send me pictures of herself. Somehow it struck a 'fake' nerve with me :p.

Try it, you might be surprised.. or not, more likely. However, if they're not even willing to read your profile they're not really interested in you as a person, but more as an idea.

[iflie]

Yups, a profile is just nice for the basics so you can know what to ask if you end up talking. And a webcam ofcourse.

And pfft she could post pics on fetlife itself but yes total scam. But I don't doubt people fall for it all the time.

And yes the have you read my profile test is a good one. People sometimes even put a special word in it you should use in the message you send so they know you read it.

If I get in the mood to seriously start looking for someone I might try it. It should spook most of the non serious types and well spammers is something you take with it. Easy enough to ignore.

~Iflie

[thecaretaker]

Webcams are nice, yes. As well as Skype or something similar. Makes talking alot easier than typing. Though typing/chat/email has it's charm as well.

Well.. she did have one picture up, but it just screamed fake. Too pretty, too young looking etc.

That's actually a rather good idea, but then again, with me being the dom male, I am supposed to seek out the sub females, not the other way around. So it wouldn't really work for me.

I bet you'd get lots of attention if you wanted to.

[iflie]

Skype fries my comp for some reason. But with MSN you can also just talk. At the moment with kitty inside he tends to put a stop to my ability to respond directly via typing