i know how you feel right now, having a baby isnt the right idea... thats just going to make MORE problems. youre thinking of having a baby for the wrong reasons, how do you think your child would feel when you told them "i got pregnant from a sperm donor because i gave up on trying to find someone who loves me, so i had you because you have to love me cause im your mother" that is nt right. give it time, go out. stop trying to find someone online because thats obviously not working for you. stop looking and eventually he will be right there in front of your face. you arent alone... there are plenty of single people out there who have no one too. you just need to get your mind off things, start running -- go to a gym -- walk thru a park -- get a dog... something.
i know you deleted what you replied to me but thats the problem YOU DONT HAVE ANY FRIENDS. and you arent going to get any friends spending your time online looking for a new bf. how does talking to people online accomplish anything? your mom wouldnt let you go to a concert with someone you dont know IRL let alone on a vacation. go out and do something and you will make friends. when you have friends and you are happy and confident THEN you will find the right guy. I myself am a hermit and I still manage to have friends, mostly due to my job. you could get a job and meet people!
bb sorry i haven't read lately. anyway.. DON'T have a baby.. i know they're cute and cuddly when they're little but then they get older and become annoying and also it will make you more dependent on your mother than you already are. you need to get out into the world and be independent before you have a baby. theres no need to rush these things. one day you will be married and have a baby and it will be wonderful, don't you think your future child deserves to have parents that are married and a home of it's own? :) btw how are your ~britney abs~ coming along??
i was wondering, do you like dogs? i know i've read that your mom has a bunch of cats so you're probably familiar with helping take care of animals. maybe you could work at a pet store or maybe walk dogs as a part time job? animals are very, very therapeutic and may help you get over your heartache! :) or if you're interested in babies, maybe you could start babysitting or something similar?
People have been trying and trying to help, offering advice and giving insights, but all you ever do is shrug them off and then be all "please help me." We have been trying to help you, you just aren't taking it. Do you even know anyone on your buddy list? Have you even thought to talk to them and help them with THEIR issues? Maybe no one is helping you because you can't help yourself, you can't help them, and you absolutely refuse to take help when it is offered to you. People can only help so much when all they get in return is rudeness and selfishness. You make everyone feel like their advice isn't good enough for you, so people end up just not giving any advice at all
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IAWTC it seems like you and I are the only ones who took the "tough love" approach. This girl is immature and needs to stop whining and join the adult ranks where you take responsibility for your actions and stop blaming others.
I'm sorry you're so sad. You can't rely on someone else for happiness and purpose ever, whether it be a significant other, friend or child. You need to find YOUR passion and pursue it, and make it happen. And you can also join the grown up world where many of us have to fake it until we make it. If you have a problem making/keeping friends, maybe you should stop blaming others and look within yourself for the cause of the problem. I know this isn't easy to stomach but it's a little thing called tough love. HE is out of the picture. It's you now and if you want control of your life then you need to TAKE control. Life will pass you by if you sit around waiting for it to start without taking the initiative. FIND activities, join a workout class, a knitting club, volunteer for the needy - that might make you stop feeling so goddamn sorry for yourself. I know this is harsh but it seems to me like you need it.
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