"It's possble to love someone, it's possible to change the world"

[i_llbedammned]

I have been very busy lately. I had three weddings last weekend, one of which I helped to set up everything for. They all went very well and all the brides and grooms looked perfect and happy. Good for them, I wish them the best. I even wrote a poem in my head during the one service that was in a church, though I need to run through it a couple

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[jester]

It's so very frustrating when people don't understand that not everyone is going to just fall into the exact same pattern as everyone else.

[i_llbedammned]

Exactly! Honestly I think that desire to make everyone just like you causes a lot of problems in the world.

[lusimeles]

I keep wanting to say something clever to this post, but I feel like you've basically said it all already. I will just echo my agreement instead! I think I'm probably a bit younger than you so I'm not getting TOO many inquiries about that type of thing YET, but I'm really not looking forward to the barrage of expectations that'll start falling on my shoulders over the next few years...

[i_llbedammned]

Heh. I'm actually not that old. I'm only 23! It's just I have friends of varying ages and a third of my family if Orthodox Jewish. (They say that if I'm 25 and still not married I'm an old maid and no one will want to touch me.)

I'm glad I worded things correctly though.

[novembermond]

grah I hate that type of thinking. "I want to get married, so everyone else must want it too." no, just no. or even worse, "no matter what you want it's your duty to get married because continuation of species" <- lolwhat

[i_llbedammned]

Yeah I've heard the continuation of the species arguement. It never quite seems to compute with me.

[starhawk2005]

It can be kinky with whips and chains.

Sign me up!! ;)

Society has a lot of set ideas. You're single? Gotta get married. You're married? Gotta have a kid! You have one kid? Gotta have more!

Don't pay attention to any of that crap, hon. It's YOUR life, and you get to choose what to do with it. And nobody can guilt you into following along with the crowd, unless you LET them.

*hugs*

[i_llbedammned]

Thanks! It's my life, just sometimes I think society for gets that.

[starhawk2005]

Sadly, many people like to mind other people's business.... *shakes head*

[mafiaprincess]

Your icon = <3

Just saying.

[annietopia]

I think that most people mean well, but they cannot think out of their own boxes. If it works for them, it must work for everyone. Or if it their desire, it must be the desire of everyone. I figure to each his/her own. If you are happy, I am happy for you. I do not think that everyone must get married and have children just because I did it.

Going to functions like weddings or anything baby related, though, must be hard if family/friends question you. I hope that it does not bother you too much, and you are able to go and enjoy the day anyway.

[i_llbedammned]

I know they mean well, it just becomes presumptuous to me at times. I basically take your policy, if you are happy and not hurting anyone I don't care what you do.

It doesn't bother me too much til after the fact once I have time to think about it. I enjoyed the weddings a lot, but reviewing things in my head makes things worse for me at times because I notice the patterns. My brain is silly.