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[i_iambe]

Last week I got verbally (okay, email) attacked by someone who managed to zero right in on what is currently my most painful spot.

Here's the situation. Tomorrow the WasherWomen are throwing a joint baby shower for him and his wife and another couple who just had a baby. The other couple lives near me, and one of the women who offered to host the

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[cwjennifer]

("I'm sorry if I offended anyone, if you don't have kids you don't understand what it's like").

Ah, but you know what? You CHOSE to have kids. Hence it is NOT okay to take your personal feelings about the matter out on those who do NOT have kids.

I'm angry for you. SO uncalled for.

[i_iambe]

Thank you. That helps a lot to know that I'm not overreacting. :>)

[thehypo]

That sounds like a really tough situation. I'm sorry.

On the plus side, at least his wife has some sense to at least try to set him straight. I know some people who would just defend their guy no matter what.

[thehypo]

er: unless I'm reading wrong and it wasn't his wife that chewed him out. Either way, it's nice to have someone support you like that.

[i_iambe]

Actually it was a mutual friend. Part of the reason I'm nervous is that his wife is going to be there tomorrow and I haven't heard anything from her about it so I don't know how she's going to behave toward me. I know she knows, he sent the emails from her account.

[thehypo]

Only suggestion I can offer is not to even bring it up. There's no reason to start an issue at a party about it, so hopefully it will pass uneventfully. If you feel the need to take it up with her, a less public event would definately be better; I'm not suggesting that you planned to or not, but just in case you had planned to, or it comes up unexpected... that's my 2 cents.

[jlh1026]

Wow - sorry sweetie :( But I just don't get it. The lady that offered to host it lives in IE {OK right now I'm going to admit I don't get the geography but that's because I live far away}... anyway, she lives in IE and she's hosting it. 'nuff said, it's there. Plus throw in the issue with the one father, that should have just cemented it. Sounds more like this guy is just all about it being about him - and really if it is just *that* hard then he should just bow out and and have it be all about the other couple.

And kids or not - it's just common courtesy to have things either split between two locations or some type of 'meet in the middle'.

So I hope tomorrow go's OK for you.

[i_iambe]

I actually suggested in a mass email after his first email that since we weren't going to be able to have both fathers at the party no matter where we have it that we schedule two different baby showers so that the fathers could be there. No one liked that idea.

[jlh1026]

Wow, no one liked common sense in this situation did they?

At least you tried!

[krisstudly]

:( I'm sorry this jerk made you feel so terrible. That's completely inexcusable, especially when he says that he *intended* to make you feel bad. I don't blame you for not wanting to forgive him.

[i_iambe]

Your icon makes me smile. If I get upset tomorrow I'm going to pull out my phone, plug in my earphones and watch "Some Fantastic". That always cheers me up.

[dalisair]

*hugs* if I had a car I'd come visit you. but until then feel free to come to Long Beach anytime and I will hang out with you and give real hugs.

[i_iambe]

Next time I'm in Long Beach I'm going to take you up on that offer. :>)