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hopita

Mid-Morning Update.

Aug 31, 2009 12:23

I talked to my Mom for a while. Some about aaronbenedict, some just about me, and her, and us, and life in general. I've considered myself lucky for a long time that I have a mother that I like so much. Everyone who knows her seems to like her too ( Read more... )

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ratphooey August 31 2009, 19:23:22 UTC

Is getting married the goal? Or is it being happy? Because you can be happy without being married.

Maybe the next step, once you've caught your breath and recovered from this, is to look at your life and make it what you want it to be, guy or no guy.

hopita September 1 2009, 10:15:46 UTC

Is getting married the goal? Or is it being happy?

Ideally it would be a cross between the two.

And I have to say, it sure would be nice to get asked at least once. aaronbenedict was the only man that I ever seriously discussed the possibility with.

ratphooey September 1 2009, 10:48:27 UTC

I think it's easy for married men to talk about marriage.

The only man I'd ever seriously discussed marriage with, before my husband, was MY married man.

In hindsight, I wonder how serious those discussions were. Since he was already married.

hopita September 1 2009, 16:43:29 UTC

I knew ours were somewhat serious, at least because he was clear that he would not be ready to get married again right away.

Aside from aaronbenedict there was Steven, who, after we broke up, said that he had been thinking of asking me to marry him (bullet dodged there, but that's another story). The only other one who talked about it was Chim Chim, but we were 17 (me) and 20 (him) at the time.

I suspect it mostly has to do with the fact that I've dated an awful lot of people who didn't actually like me very much.

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ratphooey September 1 2009, 10:48:56 UTC

The above? YES.