Comments | hopita: Choosing my religion.

hopita

Choosing my religion.

Apr 08, 2009 19:13

Gut yontif, one and all.

If I were Observant, everything I'm doing right now would be considered wrong -- typing, using electronics ... but at the moment, the only things that feel really wrong are that I'm not at a seder, and that I have to be apart from aaronbenedict for three days ( Read more... )

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starfall18 April 9 2009, 00:34:25 UTC

not doign anything tonight, going to do a seder with the extended family saturday night.

ratphooey April 9 2009, 01:25:33 UTC

We had kickass matzah from our baker pal, and gourmet/retro gefilte fish.

Tomorrow there will be matzah ball soup.

Friday there will be charoset.

It's a traveling, sporadic Pesach.

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ratphooey April 9 2009, 15:05:12 UTC

It's been in his basement since 1942.

Either that or it's a modern version of the fishmonger's grandma's recipe.

hopita April 9 2009, 17:40:12 UTC

It's been in his basement since 1942.

Ewwwwwwwwwww.

_aqualung_ April 9 2009, 12:11:36 UTC

I didn't go to a seder last night either. By the time my dad finally got to my cousin's, we were beat. We're doing second night at her place.

There's some amusing irony to Pesah this year; My divorce becomes final either today or tomorrow.

If it's any consolation, because of a complicated series of events, I can't see the girl for roughly two weeks.

I get home Friday. Maybe we can hang out.

hopita April 9 2009, 15:26:16 UTC

Sorry. Friday I'll be heading to Annapolis, MD for the aforementioned seder with bishopjoey.

hopita April 9 2009, 15:42:59 UTC

Also, did I hear correctly that Sephardic tradition is to eat an entire lamb for first seder? I feel like I was recently reading something about the paschal lamb, and how you guys have to eat the whole thing in one night.

If not, then school me: what are Sephardic seders like?

_aqualung_ April 9 2009, 16:04:45 UTC

i'm the wrong person to ask. i come from the most agnostic family out there. My cousin is making turkey and brisket.

i'm not sephardic per se. we're mizrahi. my dad's family is from iraq. the best part is the charoseth, which my dad makes with date syrup and nuts. no pistachios this year, because of the recall

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Re: I put the 'unnnn?' in 'unobservant' hopita April 9 2009, 17:35:53 UTC

For me, being Jewish isn't a set of behaviors or rituals. It's just being part of a long story, most of which is unknown to me.

Yes, this.

Mine is a little more nebulous -- I mean, I get that the point of a lot of those rituals is to strengthen the feeling of connection to that long story. And there are certain things -- no seder on Passover, no services on Rosh Hashana/Yom Kippur -- that just feel wrong, somewhere inside my gut. I also have my mother's sense of propriety in there somewhere -- that nagging feeling that working last night would have somehow been improper -- but I think that that has more to do with appearances than anything. As an example, she's pretty OK with staying home and eating on Yom Kippur, but going out and having a meal in public would be unacceptable. FWIW, I think this has more to do with her wanting to be respectful of those who do observe, rather than worrying what others would think about her (if that makes any sense ( ... )