Okay, so RL is good. Very good, even. But, like, weird and freaking me out to an extreme. Or, kind of not, but that in and of itself is freaksome. Ugh
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And I think every other comment I could possibly make to your post requires much more space than lj would give me so you should totally call me at your earliest convenience.
Love you x a billionty and am likewise immensely and eternally grateful that you are in my life. *HUGS*
Dude. My phone is totally dead and I have an appointment at the House of Pain after work. But as soon as I get home and can plug this thing in, I'm calling you. And possibly bailing out abruptly when Marc comes home, but yeah.
wow...just...wow...I'd be freaking if I'd just had the chat [since my one went so well :-)] let alone considered setting that kind of timetable. I think the twitching is probably normal and as long as you're twitching together then you can talk about it. Does the boy know your concerns about having children before you turn 40?
((((Hugs))) and best wishes for you future together.
Yeah, I'm still freaking. It's just weird. I want all the things we talked about, I'm just like, "Crap, that's a lot to get done in a relatively short time frame."
And, yes, he does know about the wanting to get started on the kid thing before 40--I just figure I'm already in a high-risk/high-difficulty range, and the longer I wait, the more risky/difficult it will become. So he knows that and seems to understand it. It's just, like, turning that understanding into action that's the challenge :-)
Re: cynth, I just freaking LOVE you.hiyacynthMay 27 2009, 11:42:29 UTC
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Yeah, that's an option. I have sort of reversed priorities than traditional regarding the importance of any religious ceremony versus the legal/JP one, so if I were to do the City Hall thing, that's the one I'd want my family attending.
Anyway, I think the thing I need to walk away with here is that there are options and I do not have to decide today. And, apparently, there's someone else who might want to have some input.
*hands you the extra cookie* Thanks for the support, babe!
You could also have a wedding (at City Hall, wherever) and have a separate reception. Have a homemade thing! It sounds like the important thing is to have your family there, not to have the biggest dresses or cakes or butt bows.
I'm definitely not one of the women who've been putting together their dream wedding since I was five, so I'm not worried about dresses and cakes. Homemade is definitely the way I'd rather go. But it's the legal thing I'd want my family at, so once they're at that, I'd probably do the party at the same time.
Anyway: Today's goal is to obsess about these details much less. :-) Thanks for the ideas!
I know it can be difficult to conceive at any time, it's just that--like you said--there are more things to watch out for after 35. And my window of "trying" availability is 3/4 of the way closed, so if it takes years and years, I have fewer years to work with. But like you also said, lots of people manage it just fine.
I also like that Marc's put enough thought into the whole matter to have an opinion about wanting to be married before he has kids. I'm just struggling with my practical side, which is all "Yeah, but if we know we're going to do that at Point X, why not just get started on the baby thingin case it takes a long time, and then get married at Point X no matter what." But, you know, apparently there are two of us making these decisions :-)
Thanks for the fabulous support and encouragement, my dear!
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And I think every other comment I could possibly make to your post requires much more space than lj would give me so you should totally call me at your earliest convenience.
Love you x a billionty and am likewise immensely and eternally grateful that you are in my life. *HUGS*
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*HULKSMISH*
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((((Hugs))) and best wishes for you future together.
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And, yes, he does know about the wanting to get started on the kid thing before 40--I just figure I'm already in a high-risk/high-difficulty range, and the longer I wait, the more risky/difficult it will become. So he knows that and seems to understand it. It's just, like, turning that understanding into action that's the challenge :-)
Thanks for the support and good wishes!
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Yeah, that's an option. I have sort of reversed priorities than traditional regarding the importance of any religious ceremony versus the legal/JP one, so if I were to do the City Hall thing, that's the one I'd want my family attending.
Anyway, I think the thing I need to walk away with here is that there are options and I do not have to decide today. And, apparently, there's someone else who might want to have some input.
*hands you the extra cookie* Thanks for the support, babe!
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Anyway: Today's goal is to obsess about these details much less. :-) Thanks for the ideas!
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I also like that Marc's put enough thought into the whole matter to have an opinion about wanting to be married before he has kids. I'm just struggling with my practical side, which is all "Yeah, but if we know we're going to do that at Point X, why not just get started on the baby thingin case it takes a long time, and then get married at Point X no matter what." But, you know, apparently there are two of us making these decisions :-)
Thanks for the fabulous support and encouragement, my dear!
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