My friend Wens wrote a good post about how people will go "I was sooo angry for you!" and then make something that wasn't their problem all about them. It made me think
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I don't know if I have the patience and calm temperament to deal with people who scream "GOD HATES GAYS." I have...at times...a very short fuse, especially for people I feel are idiotic and stupid. I'd rather save the human gene pool by eliminating the bad seeds, then try to reason with them. And that's not going to do any good because violence is not the answer. I also don't run across people who say that kind of stuff. Sure I can promote awareness on my LJ, or go to rallies and parades, but is that really enough?
I guess...I just...I worry that I sometimes don't do enough. There's a lot of causes I believe in or issues I support but they're so numerous that I feel like saying "I believe in A, I support B" doesn't really do anything to help...
It's okay to be Allied.rukiaOctober 4 2010, 03:17:22 UTC
I respect and admire your wish to support the GLBT community. I feel the same. It is important to me that my friends and relatives are loved and respected as much as I feel they truely deserve
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Re: It's okay to be Allied.rukiaOctober 4 2010, 22:02:42 UTC
That is very awesome of your mom to hold those meetings.
Thanks, but mom doesn't hold the meetings as some selfless act. She does it as much as for her and her partner as it is for the "kids" (as she calls them - since they're all about my age :P).
what about all the people out there who don't get that support?Gosh, don't spread yourself so thin by being a bleeding heart, jess hon. What I am trying to say is - okay, nevermind, I know two people who can say it better than me. Lemme google them for a sec
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Re: It's okay to be Allied.hideincarnateOctober 5 2010, 16:15:05 UTC
Yeah, I see what you mean. And that's what I want to avoid doing. Thanks for all the advice too. I think I get worked up easily and then think I GOTTA SAVE THE WORLD but obviously that's not possible. So I need my friends - like you - to talk me back down to reasonable measures.
It's not just the LGBTQ community's fight though. They already accept themselves as human beings (well, unless they're bulled into thinking otherwise); the important thing for us is to gain allies like you that are on the other side because without those people on our side we're essentially doing nothing but preaching to the choir and changes won't happen.
What I'm trying to say is that we're all people and we all deserve the right to be accepted for who we are which makes it everyone's fight. So basically, yes, allies are good. ♥
Hey, I'm queer (reclaimed umbrella term, for the record) and it always makes me happy when people who don't identify as such care enough to want to fight the hate. Apathy from the majority is what holds back more widespread social progress, I think. Preaching to the choir can make one feel good at the given moment but hardly makes a difference on the "outside". So basically, keep rocking that non-apathy.
I didn't say that you shouldn't be angry and not stand up for people who are persecuted. Where I drew the line is making it All About You and your indignation.
Right, and for me, I am trying to find where to draw that line in how I react to things like hate crimes, or bullying. Where can I stop myself from making it About Me and My Indignation?
You make perfect sense! I guess what I am trying to come to terms with, is how do I support without grandstanding? I can't fight the fight for them, but I can stand by them and back them up, but how do I do that without taking over?
I've been the person who listens, reassures. I've done that my whole life it feels like. And I sometimes feel that isn't enough. Maybe I get impatient with the world at large...
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Thanks, but mom doesn't hold the meetings as some selfless act. She does it as much as for her and her partner as it is for the "kids" (as she calls them - since they're all about my age :P).
what about all the people out there who don't get that support?Gosh, don't spread yourself so thin by being a bleeding heart, jess hon. What I am trying to say is - okay, nevermind, I know two people who can say it better than me. Lemme google them for a sec ( ... )
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What I'm trying to say is that we're all people and we all deserve the right to be accepted for who we are which makes it everyone's fight. So basically, yes, allies are good. ♥
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But next time you go to a pride parade, take me with! I've never been to one and I feel like I am missing some awesome parade action. =(
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Right, and for me, I am trying to find where to draw that line in how I react to things like hate crimes, or bullying. Where can I stop myself from making it About Me and My Indignation?
You make perfect sense! I guess what I am trying to come to terms with, is how do I support without grandstanding? I can't fight the fight for them, but I can stand by them and back them up, but how do I do that without taking over?
I've been the person who listens, reassures. I've done that my whole life it feels like. And I sometimes feel that isn't enough. Maybe I get impatient with the world at large...
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