brain cells dying

[heathers]

Soooooooooooo

Comments

[noir_moll]

Sometimes you're better off, well, if not exactly holding a grudge, continuing to be mindful of it. It can be a good reason to keep ourselves away from people, especially family, that we really don't need to communicate with for our sanity's sake. My mom has an aunt who sounds a lot like yours, and after a lifetime of aunt's pestering and needling and worrying my mom to death, my mom has all but completely cut off contact with her. And I believe she's much better off for it.

I don't know, maybe that's not right in this situation; but, you're certainly not wrong for being wary given the way this woman has hurt you before.

[heathers]

This is eerily similar to something my therapist said. Thanks for the comment--definitely have a lot to think about.

Did you manage to get the Weezer cover of "The Weight"? Let me know if you still need it (coz you definitely need it) and I can upload it for you if you like.

-H

[anirt]

I agree with noir_moll, especially because she did not apologize for the hateful comments about your body, your wife, and the loss of your mother, but only for where she said them. Definitely proceed with a cautious, wary eye.

[noir_moll]

I couldn't find it on iTunes...maybe I overlooked it but I don't think so. That would be awesome if you can upload it.

[theholyinnocent]

I pretty much agree with what noir_moll says. I'm a strong believer in giving people second chances, maybe even third ones, but it reaches a point where, if the party involved hasn't learned anything and keeps hurting you, it becomes masochism.

So I say just follow your gut on this, and if it's telling you not to engage, don't do it. You're certainly not under any obligation to do so.

[stargazer1960]

I also think it is best to trust your gut feeling. People do change, but no one knows how to find our weak spots like family.

After my father's death, a lot of people changed. Some were for the better.