An odd Fear

[grnidshrk]

 So, I was having a discussion with my ex. Not a common thing I'm sure, but I was good friends with my ex before we got together and that was my initial hesitation was because I was scared we couldn't be friends again.

Needless to say, we're now talking again, however, he's telling me I'm horribly unaffectionate and I need to change, completely.

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[fabulousweapon]

I guess what a lot of people don't realize is there are tons of different ways to express emotions. Lots of children model how affectionate they act physically off of what they see from their parents, so unless the divorce was a catalyst for you beginning to be like that it's not a cause.
There's nothing wrong with you for not wanting to hold hands. Plenty of people don't. I don't mind that, but I hate it when someone wants to walk with their arm around me. it drives me nuts.
The only reason it would be a problem is if it's an actual phobia for you and you're afraid of it (which it doesn't sound like at all). Mainly, I'd just say he's kinda close minded in a way to not realize what's easy and natural for him isn't that way for everyone.

[grnidshrk]

Thanks, I needed that. It kinda of hurt for the guy, whom I've know for years, to attack me disliking having my hand held. And its not a phobia, just an extreme dislike and whenever I tried to tell him that he kept saying I had to get over it or I'd never be happy. Needless to say, I haven't spoken to him since. It just irritates me that he, for such a good friend even after the break up, was so narrow minded as to say I have to push past that and change my personality. . . it hurt.

Like I said, though, thank you for that

[fabulousweapon]

No problem. Sometimes no matter now long you've known someone, you can be surprised by a sudden callowness you didn't realize before. :(