Comments | grinoliere: Raising kids

grinoliere

Raising kids

Feb 27, 2008 17:03

It's been a while since I have updated anything, but I had a LOT on my mind today.. My family is doing very well, my oldest son earned his black belt in Kung Fu last night (which was interesting timing) and I have no complaints with how my life is going right now. Yes, I am making more money than I ever have, but I don't feel the need to trumpet ( Read more... )

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playright February 27 2008, 22:18:40 UTC

What did the father/other kid say to the litany of events you presented?

grinoliere February 27 2008, 22:31:48 UTC

The father asked me if I had any proof, but his kid messed up and said he did it because of issues going on in the neighborhood. He finally admitted he did not like Aron's friend pushing him around and that was why he did all those things. His father was cowed somewhat to hear that his son more or less admitted to all those minor transgressions against my son. The father didn't apologize for it or truly acknowledge it, but it did take the piss and vinegar out of him for the rest of the discussion. He seemed ready to hotly debate me until he realized I wasn't making any of it up.

playright February 27 2008, 23:25:51 UTC

Good for you!

stigmatic February 27 2008, 22:36:33 UTC

Bravo to your son, and to you.

grinoliere February 27 2008, 22:44:09 UTC

It's interesting because the kid said Aaron went into a Martial arts stance. I told him and his father that the stance is DEFENSIVE. Aaron would not have taken that stance if he wasn't defending himself. In the end, I made it clear that I wanted peace. I wanted to say that if it happens again, that I hope his kid gets a back alley ass whooping. I bit my tongue though.

aggression February 27 2008, 22:37:50 UTC

Good for your son.
He used his training CORRECTLY to defend himself.
It is TRULY an empowering experience when you come to realize that you can indeed defend yourself.
It doesn't make you cocky.
It doesn't turn you into a bully.
It DOES however, instill a renewed confidence in yourself and I would not be surprised at all if he starts to improve in any areas that he may have been lacking.

Knowing how you speak and the lengths that you go through to ensure fairness, I put you into a very small group of people that I admire for certain qualities.

I'm glad that the situation wasn't any worse and I'd almost bet that he has VERY few problems with the neighbors kid anymore. Bullies tend to not mess with someone after they've been gone over. Matter of fact, after some time, they may even be good friends.

Peace.

grinoliere February 27 2008, 22:50:37 UTC

Thanks man.

The ONLY thing that kept me cool headed was that my son was not the one that got beaten up. I kept myself in check because my son hurt his boy and I KNOW what that feels like. I knew what was going through the guy's head while he was processing what had happened.

grinoliere February 28 2008, 00:24:29 UTC

BTW, about a year ago, shortly after he got his brown belt, a kid on the bus was playing "keep away" with Aaron's MP3 player. he went to kick the kid in the chest and hit his Adam's apple instead and laid the kid out. He felt miserable about what happened to the other kid. The other kid was a known bully and when his Parents came demanding action, the principal defended Aaron. I am not sure what she threatened them with, but that issue went away and that kid and Aaron are good friends now.

aggression February 28 2008, 03:24:24 UTC

That's awesome.
I've made some great friends from bullies/enemies.
It IS possible.

I never ever will forget this abso-fucking-lutely HUGE cowboy that came in our strip club once.
He got REALLY drunk and was getting rowdy.
I went and told him he'd have to chill out or I'd be forced to remove him.
He didn't take kindly to the 6' 155 pound bouncer. (me)
When he stood up and put his hand on my chest, I wrist locked him, grabbed his nose and drug him outside by it.
He left. (Thankfully. This guy was 6'2" and about 220 SOLID)

He came back 2 weeks later and apologized to me for being an ass and asked if he was allowed to come back in the bar.
We became pretty good friends after that.
He even came to visit me once shortly after I moved to Atlanta.

wanderingastray February 27 2008, 23:20:29 UTC

congratulations to your son on achieving his black belt, and on standing up for himself!

grinoliere February 28 2008, 00:09:42 UTC

The other kid is about 2 inches taller than my son is. I just found out that Aaron was telling him he'd just earned his black belt when this kid told him all that stuff doesn't matter and pushed my son and his bike over ( ... )

athenalove February 28 2008, 15:33:15 UTC

It's the best thing when a child stands up for himself. I'm glad you didn't ground him. It was self defense. =D