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[greygirlbeast]

Originally posted by faustfatale at On Cynthia Nixon, Bisexuality and Sexual "Likability"
After all the online hullabaloo, actress Cynthia Nixon has clarified her recent controversial "gay by choice" comments in the Advocate. As a fellow no-respect-getting bisexual, I'll admit I was stung by her statement: "I don't pull out the 'bisexual' word because nobody

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[lady_tigerfish]

You're the kind of straight friend a queer kid is lucky to have. Thank you, and all those like you.

[highway_west]

This is just my take.

I think that people should be free to take or reject whatever labels that feel comfortable and them excited. Some people my favorite people get a real kick out of claiming and playing with labels.

I know a number of people in the fetish community that claim queer/gay labels not because of rejecting bisexual branding or identity, but to stand with the kink community as a whole.

In that sense, I get Nixon's comments and understand that she likely didn't mean them as hurtful to anyone. Since I tend to have foot in mouth syndrome, I usually look for intent.

[lady_tigerfish]

I've ranted about this tendency on my own blog in the past at length, but yes, yes, yes to what Christa said.

The cruelest and most dismissive comments I've gotten about my sexuality have all been from fellow LGBT people who want nothing to do with anyone so wishy-washy as to dare identify as "bi." Among these interactions have been two drunken arguments (one relatively light, one so heated that I ended up leaving the party at which it happened) and a whole slew of patronizingly earnest conversations about how I couldn't possibly be bi, because bi is not a thing, or I'm just too afraid to give up my straight privilege, or whatever flavor of rhetoric they're trotting out this week to dismiss bi people. On average, I find myself gaining more acceptance from the straights, and that just makes me want to bang my head against a wall.

(Note: I've noticed that the above isn't true so much on the west coast; in fact, I've found the LGBT community so accepting out there that you could probably invent a gender and/or sexual identity

[ext_999196]

I remember reading a Libertarian Facebook page, and the moderator asked the question, "how are you going to spread liberty", and one of the replies was simply "by minding my own business". And I thought, that was perfect. Can't the fundies simply learn to mind their own business, and keep out of the affairs of consenting adults? Couldn't it be as simple as that? (As I was writing this I was reminded of a line from William Burroughs' Thanksgiving Prayer, "thanks for a country where nobody is allowed to mind his own business".)

[scotchegg]

"how are you going to spread liberty", and one of the replies was simply "by minding my own business".
Absolutely brilliant. so simple and yet seems to be so difficult to grasp.

[cimeara]

My daughter is, yes, a senior in college. She has had a relationship with a guy, and is now in a relationship with a girl. (Both her parents are fine with this. The other girl's parents, not so much.) She doesn't like the term "bisexual". She prefers saying she's pansexual because "she's attracted to Pans". But the way I put it is that she sees the person, not the package. Some people can't get past the packaging. And this, unfortunately, applies to both ends of the bell curve. It's as though they think the bell curve is upside down: that people must be either all-the-way-straight or all-the-way-gay, when it's really that most people aren't capable of admitting their degree of sexual attraction to whichever sex isn't the one they have claimed to be (mainly) attracted to. It's unfortunate, it's sad, and worse, it's demeaning and painful to those who admit otherwise.