awkward facebook friends request

[grace_fully]

omfg. HANDS, guys. HANDS.

here is why i hate facebook: because one of my undergrad psych professors -- you KNOW, the one you have a huge crush on because they're so motivating and awesome and they believe in you and they're moderately attractive so you attach -- just requested access to my facebook

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[corbyinoz]

No.

I'm a professor too, and no.

This is wrong on so many levels.

He may think he's awesome: he may *be* awesome, in many ways; *this* is crashingly unprofessional and should be resisted in every way possible.

No.

[grace_fully]

Omg that is what I thought! I don't even know. I have been graduated 3 years, and it's been 4 years since I've actually had him in class or spoke to him, so maybe slightly better than if I was still communicating with him on a student-mentor level but it just tinged that "wtfery" in the back of my mind. So out of left field.

[grace_fully]

HAHA i never added him. all i had to see was his facebook picture to be reminded, oh yeah, this is awkward and weird, especially with no email correspondence as warning. he's added a bunch of old students from 4-5 years ago, but errr. no.

[painted_pain]

Ummmm, I'd have to go with everyone else. Yeah, no. Really, no.

[grace_fully]

the more i thought about it, the more i leant on the "omfg NO" side of things, and ultimately never added. too weird. a friend and i had a discussion about male professors who are heros because they're awesome leaders, and then ruin it by being stereotypical "men." ugh. so disappointed.

[dugindeep]

Wait. You USED to have breakdowns about how passionate you are? :-P

Anyway! I guess I don't find it TOO weird considering I still keep in touch with my high school bowling coach/math teacher and have his daughter on Facebook (to be fair I used to babysit her, though maybe this makes it even worse? IDK?).

I think internet etiquette has gotten out of hand so if you want to deny him, it should be fine. It's not like you'll experience a backlash and he'll revoke your grades right? There are ways to add people and let them on see certain portions of your profile, though don't ask me how, I've just heard about it. Like the Loch Ness Monster or men having multiple orgasms.

[grace_fully]

Wait. You USED to have breakdowns about how passionate you are? :-P
dick.

LOL. omg amy if you knew me then.

totally ended up never adding him -- i can get where in this day and age it's pretty much a normal occurrance, but it was just a bizarre feeling, for him to have like -- thought of me beforehand, then look up my name, then look at my picture and go 'yup -- that's her' -- you know? oof, weird. then again i'm way too sensitive/paranoid re: the scummy side of men, having worked at a movie theatres where all the employees were 17/18 year old girls and all the managers were 30+ year old men, and fucking pigs about it. ugh. men are ruined for me, after that.

or men having multiple orgasms.
HAHAsnort.

[dugindeep]

You love me, shut your face.

I'm glad you're comfortable with the decision you made :)

[13chapters]

I am Facebook friends with a professor. Of course, I'm a grad student, maybe it's different? This particular professor is totally lulzy. He lives on another planet. For his festschrift, the university got Paul freaking Krugman to come out here and give a talk, so he's apparently actually an influential economist, but when you talk to him it's like ANYTHING could come out of his mouth next.

But I would definitely refuse this request. I am a big friend request ignorer. I do it all the time.

[grace_fully]

I am a big friend request ignorer.
DUDE me too! and ultimately ended up just ignoring it, lol, there was some sort of line there i felt shady about, and couldn't get past it.