In which I am way more messed up than I even cared to admit

[gloryforever]

I am the world's biggest idiot.

Comments

[author_by_night]

You are not an idiot. He, however, is an asshole for treating you like that; you are an incredibly nice person beyond deserving that sort of treatment.

*Hugs*

[gloryforever]

*hugs*

You're sweet.

[annabtg]

******hugs******

[gloryforever]

*hugs back*

[snorkackcatcher]

I don't get this guy. Here he is, sounding pretty much like he has the classic "desperate nostalgia for the good times he had with an old flame" bug, and then when a meeting actually doesn't end in disaster, he ... just vanishes? Of course, unless there was some emergency, this could just be the equally classic "sudden cold terror about a commitment he might possibly have made" once the warm and fuzzy feeling wore off a bit, in which case expect to hear from him again after a suitable interval when he realises that he might have just made a repeat blunder.

If that happens ... well, your call if you want to forgive and forget or take it any further, but I guess you'd need to get things very clear with him on what is and is not something to expect and accept. If not ... well, sympathies and commiseration. Just take care of yourself and try not to get hurt again, eh? Because you deserve better.

[gloryforever]

Many thanks for your input. I've had a bit of time to reflect on what happened. At first I felt a little like an outtake of "He's just not that into you" or something; now I sort of don't know what to think so I've chosen not to think anything at all for the time being. In the event that he does call back (and I'm not counting on it, if for no reason other than to preserve my sanity), there better be a *good* explanation for what happened and there will have to be some laying of ground rules.

[wizardelfgirl]

He's the idiot, not you, so don't even say it. You don't need to explain what you felt when he treated you nice because it's perfectly understandable and needs no explanation. You deserve that kind of treatment and always will, and finding someone willing to give it is always nice and special.

You'll have to think if you want to give the guy another chance if he ever calls you back. If whatever excuse he gives you for not calling sounds sincere enough, you might want to give it another try, provided you warn him that you won't tolerate certain things. Be a little more cautious, but don't let a bad experience scare you away from future possibilities, be them with this guy or another.

I thought about you today. I went to Mass and they sang Panis Angelicus. What did happen in the end with the concert? You never told.

[gloryforever]

If whatever excuse he gives you for not calling sounds sincere enough, you might want to give it another try, provided you warn him that you won't tolerate certain things.

*nods* Definitely.

I thought about you today. I went to Mass and they sang Panis Angelicus. Really? I'd never even heard the thing before we were asked to do it. I guess that means I don't go to mass enough.

What did happen in the end with the concert? You never told.

Program for the concert is as follows: 1) Peter Frisée set, 2) Ode to Joy (us), 3)Las Alteñitas (us again), 4) The Impossible Dream (us), 5)Second Peter Frisée set, 6) Panis Angelicus.

I'm told Peter wants to *play* Panis Angelicus while the kids sing, but I just dread that the organ is going to drown their voices or just throw them off rhythm. Final rehearsal is tomorrow, so I shall be spamming you (either here or on Facebook) with clips, photos and the like.

[gilpin25]

You're definitely not the idiot here, and it sounds as if he's got suddenly very cold feet and thought avoidance is the best course of action for ... him. But that's not on. I hope he gets in touch and at least gives you some explanation or apology.

I'd echo snorkackcatcher because I don't really get this guy either - when he seems to have made all the suggestions and ideas, it seems rather odd. But that's not your fault and you do deserve a lot better than this. You keep going for it because not everyone gets cold feet. :)

[gloryforever]

I hope he gets in touch and at least gives you some explanation or apology.

Oh, me too. But I'm not holding my breath, really.

Thanks for your thoughts.