Well I took this week off work to get some academic work done. But I've been feeling painfully bleurgh. I caught something from someone at work and have been left flat out for days. It's a cold, but not a full-on phlegmy lurgy type situation. Tired. Achey. Not sleeping well. Sore throat. Cough, but not a productive cough. It's meant there is little
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And it sounds like an odd, unhappy marriage!
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Clearly D made the right choice in picking you over the friend! :)
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I have a little sympathy, because the people who most want me to be single for a night usually aren't themselves married or are ex married and I know single folks can feel excluded!
Mind you, I had married friends when I was single myself.
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And I know it doesn't feel good to be made to feel like a third wheel. But I hardly think T and I do that, mostly because we were friends first and hung out together with all the same people before!
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Your friends need to learn this, but with their married friends. Because, seriously, do they actually expect you to make plans without telling/discussing with your spouse? Seriously?
I'm sorry you're feeling so poorly.
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I'll bet you didn't have doubts, did you?
Sympathies for the lurgy. May it pass, soon.
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I have no doubts when it comes to me and T-Rex. :)
And, thank y-achooo!
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It seems to me that these friends are caught in the egotism/narcissism that develops in the long-term relationship-challenged. Perhaps it's their inability to understand what a relationship entails that means they are impatient of yours and unable to build such relationships themselves.
I hope - it these are people you wish to keep in your life - that you will be able to sort things out with them in such a way that your friendships will evolve. *hugs*
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I had another friend who became unreasonable whenever I talked about any of my relationships, and moreso when it became clear that T-Rex and I were really making it work. I didn't even bother inviting that person to the wedding because at that point I decided I don't need that kind of negativity. So it goes both ways.
I'm sorry you lost your friend. And I suspect you are spot on in terms of inability to understand for one of these friends in particular. The other is in a relationship that is just shy of real commitment and claims the situation is perfectly suiting. But one toe in, one toe out is not how I choose to live.
No doubt the friendships will either evolve or dissolve. But that is the way in life. Thanks :)
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