Two days running!

[gillo]

I got new fabric to line the cape (satin-backed crepe - or is that crepe-backed satin?) and have cut out everything except the interfacing, so tomorrow should see the sewing machine full speed ahead. I spent a lot of time doing traditional tailors' tacks to mark out the placing for the slit for the hands, which I am terrified of getting skewiff

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[tx_cronopio]

Yeah, I think about that as well -- I really need to give Engineer my password in case anything happens to me. Like if I go to jail for beating the crap out of my brother or something.

[gillo]

That sounds like a worthy cause to face jail for, but not a good use of your time. You're way too busy right now to beat him to the pulp he so richly deserves, anyway.

But, yes, it does concern me when people slip from view. There are others I now see on FB but not here, but I still miss their LJ presence.

[slaymesoftly]

Deep breaths! Sounds like a nightmare of a week - but with two happy events. You can do this! Give my best wishes and congratulations to both girls, please (assuming they remember us at all. lol)

It is scary how someone who had been part of your daily life for years can just disappear or fade away and you never know what happened to them. I think anyone who's had a strong on-line presence for a long time should make it a point to have a friend designated to post on their page/journal/whatever if and when that person will no longer be able to themselves.

ps: scheherezade1 is still kicking. We exchange xmas cards every year, although I haven't seen her on line in forever. Maybe I will see if she's on FB...

[gillo]

Thanks. The graduand is me, though, not a girl. ;-)

I agree. I need at the least to put details in a letter to be opened and acted on. It didn't seem necessary twenty years ago, but we're not exactly getting younger, and I have lost perhaps ten good online friends over the years.

Very glad to hear about Schez - she seemed so unwell when I saw her at the Union Chapel, and she slid from view not long after.

[slaymesoftly]

Oops! Sorry! I forgot that you've been having your own academic successes this year. I knew that too - I was thinking I didn't know anything about R graduating, but completely forgot that you would be. :(

I've been thinking about it. None of us are getting any younger and I plan to give Stirling something to read and handle. Would probably just tell him to contact Corinna and/or Kat to handle fandom stuff, but he'd have to know what to do about my website and how to get hold of them.

Schez was not on FB. I do worry about her because she'd been so ill just before we were in the UK, and then I think had a relapse. I think I'll write her and ask for a current email addy so I have some way to check up on her. But so far, the cards keep coming every year.

I suspect as people move on from fandom(s) or LJ, they don't realize that they may be leaving behind people who will wonder or worry about them. Seems like it might make a good subject for a meta-type post. I may work on that....

Have wonderful wedding!

[enigmaticblues]

I've often thought about leaving an "in the event of my death" letter for Tyson, but given my own recent past, I feel he would probably take it very badly. I suppose, especially for fannish things and my writings, I'd rather a friend handle it, but it can be a difficult subject to broach. (And, while I'm still young, I am reaching the age where I will occasionally get notices of a friend's untimely death.)

[enigmaticblues]

There are losses of internet friends that I still feel with a sharp pang, and you're right. We don't always have the means or the rituals to say goodbye as we do in RL. I've often thought that anymore, part of a will or living will ought to be things like usernames and passwords, ways in which to tell the world what's happened. I'm not sure what the answer is, either.

Here's hoping that the wedding will go off without a hitch! (Or at least that those small hiccups will be things to laugh over later.)

[cindergal]

I do know what you mean about LJ and other internet friends just seeming to disappear. It's very sad for me, too. I was just thinking the other day about kcarolj65, who hasn't posted in a couple of years. She was being treated for cancer when she just stopped posting, so that's particularly worrisome (though she seemed to be doing well at the time).

[fenchurche]

Oh my gosh... she was also the first person to come to mind for me. Last spring I even posted a reply to her last LJ entry asking if she was okay and telling her how much I missed her... hoping that it might reach her if she was still with us. I must admit that when I still didn't hear from her I did an online search to see if I could turn up an obituary (since I knew her real name), but nothing.

[cindergal]

I saw your comment - I went to that last post too, to see if there was any more recent reply from her. I could not remember her last name so I couldn't do a search. I met her a couple of times (Writercon) and really just wish I knew that she was okay. I have a close friend going through chemo now, so she came to mind.

[trepkos]

Totally agree about all the people who leave ... very disturbing. Some, I even had their address and sent cards to ... And when they delete with no explanation it's just as bad, especially if you look back and find that their half of a comment thread has disappeared.