I just finished reading a YA book called Freak by Marcella Pixley. (I got a number of YA books out of the library today, because the teen room, unlike every other area containing fiction in the library, is on the first floor and therefore does not require an eternally broken elevator for access.) The book was very good and very painful for three-
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I'm sorry you bought into it, even for a second. They damaged my self-confidence, too.
I just wanted the bullies all to drop dead. Literally. If every one of them had died of a massive coronary simultaneously, I would have cheered and then started singing this:
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The worst moment was when a teacher told me "I'm glad to see you sticking up for yourself, but you can't hit them." And all I could think was "You knew. You knew what they were doing, and you did nothing. You BITCH."
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Yes. This. Which is pretty much what you DO learn when you go to school every day wondering if this will be the day that the bullies kill you and pass off your death as an accident. Which I knew they would get away with. Most of the adults in my life were stuck on, "Boys would NEVER hit girls!" or "Now stop telling stories, girls would NEVER be so mean to each other!"
So if someone succeeded in strangling me with a belt--something that a girl-bully tried in ninth grade--or my skull got bashed in with a hockey stick--something a boy tried on me in fifth grade--I knew damned well that it would be passed off as just an unfortunate accident, because no child could intend to kill another! Children were sweet and innocent and were incapable of such things! They simply started playing a little too rough. Just a ( ... )
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I had to fight back physically before my tormentors stopped. And, like the rest of us, I got in trouble for doing that, and, like a fortunate few of us, my parents raised holy hell with the administration over that.
From DAY ONE, I taught my kid "never start a fight, but ALWAYS finish it," and "we will back you up against school authorities every time for that," and "hit the soft parts with your hand, hit the hard parts with a utensil."
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That really IS the only thing that works. It doesn't do any good to fight back nicely or only within certain parameters. You have to be willing to hurt them as badly, if not worse, than they can hurt you. Card gets serious points for knowing that.
Your parents sound a lot like mine, both in terms of support and battle advice. I wish more parents were that sensible.
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That's one thing that I always loved about Lewis; he didn't idealize children. He knew that children, no less than adults, could be spiteful, tiresome, greedy and cruel. I admired that when I was little; he was honest in a way that few writers dared to be. And I cheered when the bullies went wailing off, beaten for once, furious, and howling that it wasn't FAIR. That is how a bully would react, and a surprising number of people won't admit that.
Kids can be bad, and you can fight back. And that's not wrong.It definitely isn't. My parents were all about standing up to bullies; they felt that if kids didn't learn to fight them as children, they would just grow up to be crushed Caspar Milquetoast types, mild, meek and forever afraid. Getting ( ... )
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