(Untitled)

[geekchick]

I have a real problem with guilt. By that I mean that I take on rather too much of it, even for things that aren't particularly my fault. Example: a mistake was made a few weeks ago, and all documentation leads to the conclusion that the mistake wasn't mine (and the other party said at the time the mistake was pointed out that the fault might've

Comments

[madbodger]

That explains much that I should have been able to figure out on my own, but didn't.

[ryozu]

Normal? No, but appreciated to be sure.

I can't say I'm much like that. I tend to rationalize things into the ground before my emotions ever get a chance to step in. That's why it's always been very, very hard for me to understand a close friend of mine. She's not quite as skilled at putting things into words, but your words seem to match what she's trying to say, so maybe that's two people I understand just a bit better. =)

[geekchick]

I tend to rationalize things into the ground before my emotions ever get a chance to step in.

Yeah, I tend to have a lot of friends and partners like that too. I am much more emotional than logical when I'm upset, and sometimes that makes it very hard to have a productive conversation because I'm flailing my arms around trying to verbalize emotions and the other person is coming at it from a totally different direction.

[sirjames]

Yup, ditto for me.

Not exactly the same, but intuitively, this is related:

One of the things that was discussed on Tuesday at the BR poly talk was the issue of boundaries. I've never really thought about that, per se, and so it's up on my radar to look into, and work, to know more clearly what they are, for me, and how I can constructively identify something that's *not* mine to dwell and roll around in.

*hugs* sweet lady

[geekchick]

and how I can constructively identify something that's *not* mine to dwell and roll around in

That would be an excellent first start for me, I think.

*hug* Glad to hear you seem to be recovering well.

[sirjames]

I'm getting better daily, thanks to the time and space to heal. I've very specifically and deliberately afforded myself access to massage and energy therapy, acupuncture, lots of rest, and good nutrition. I hope to continue with this approach - and not lapse back to old habits.

On the boundaries thing, a friend of mine has pointed out that some of the boundaries issues very closely parallel some of the issues/challenges/opportunities as experienced by Adult Children of Alcoholics (ACA). My mother died an alcoholic, and long ago I waived "that stuff" off as hooey (sp?). Now seems like a good time to go back and work on it.

I'd enjoy 1-1 time with you, sometime. Would you?

*hugs*