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[geekchick]

I have a real problem with guilt. By that I mean that I take on rather too much of it, even for things that aren't particularly my fault. Example: a mistake was made a few weeks ago, and all documentation leads to the conclusion that the mistake wasn't mine (and the other party said at the time the mistake was pointed out that the fault might've

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[geekchick]

I haven't figured out yet why I can't just let go, I suspect it might be easier if I knew what I was getting out of holding on to feelings of inadequacy.

[anotheranon]

I have little useful to add except to note that you're not alone - I do this shit too :( In my case it's some perverse notion that unless I keep beating myself up, I won't be sufficiently careful next time. This doesn't work as well as one might think :/

[hugs]

[geekchick]

Like I said to Dan above, I'm not quite sure why I keep holding on to stuff. It's not like I feel I'm getting anything out of it really other than some lovely feelings of inadequacy. Yay. =/

[asetwoman]

I have a milder version of this as well.

And off topic: your icon makes me think of my first girlfriend.

[asetwoman]

Uh, yes. Her. She wasn't exactly upfront with her plastic fruit throwing tendencies.

[geekchick]

I had to go back and look at which one I ended up using, because I'd originally started to use the Winnie the Pooh "thinking" icon and wondered what reminded you there of your girlfriend. =)

Plastic fruit sounds like a story, probably not meant for consumption here.

[mouseman]

Not so much me on the other people (though occasionally a slight twinge of it), very much so on the 2, 5, 10, 15 years ago screw-ups that still get me (even if the offended person had long forgotten about it).

But ... life goes on.

[geekchick]

But ... life goes on.

It does indeed.

I've never really been entirely sure why I hold on to stuff like that for so long, when it's clearly long since ceased being an issue. Maybe if I could figure out why, I could figure out how to let it go.

[kytynpet]

Me too. Those are how i think/intellectualize/feel about guilt as well. And it so depends on my perspective of things when i'm in the midst of it. Like now, for example . . .

Five minutes ago, I just hugged my son goodbye as he moved out. Mommy guilt has been my most recent focus, but there are all kinds of other things I wrap myself around too.

Hugs to you.

[geekchick]

*hug* I imagine it's hard to watch your oldest leave the nest, regardless. Take care of yourself, okay? (Also, there's a carnival out at the Bull Run park this weekend apparently. Maybe we need to go eat food on sticks and vent?)