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[gammerus]

Per comments on my friends posts, friends he met through me, but never on mine... this shouldn't bother me but it does.

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[girly123]

Are you still friends with him on facebook? You really, really shouldn't be.

[gammerus]

I have his posts on my wall hidden, but yes we are. I kept de-friending him and re-adding him, thinking I was ready and fine, so much at the start that he said if I did it again he wouldn't re-add me...

[gammerus]

I mean, I have his posts on my feed.
Normally I don't see much, but when he posts on, say, Jennica's statuses, I see those and am discouraged :/

[girly123]

You should really just delete him. Honestly, keeping him on to constantly discourage you isn't doing you any favors.

[milosquared]

I did already mention why he doesn't do that right? He's trying to distance himself from you because you're going through this, not to be mean or to discourage you. I agree with others though, don't keep him as a friend until you're really ready, and even if you think you are then don't unless you feel the same a while later. It won't make you feel good to keep going back and forth.

[gammerus]

You have, and I understand it logically, but at the same time I don't. If he's trying to help, it's just causing more harm because I end up feeling like he's just dropped me, moved on, stopped thinking or caring about me. He said he just fell out of love with me and that's why we ended, but this way of just ignoring me makes it feel like it really was my fault, that there is something so wrong with me that he just doesn't want to be around me anymore. Be a bit more distant, sure, but don't make me feel like I don't mean anything to you unless you mean it, because it means I never really meant anything to you...

[milosquared]

Well, if you don't want to delete him and not interact with him, have you tried asking him why he doesn't interact with you?

[gammerus]

I have, but all he does is either say what you said and not hear the reasons why that isn't working wellw ith me, or says he's sorry but doesn't actually change how he acts.

And, even if I do delet him, it won't solve the issue of me seeing him on all my firend's pages :( I don't actually check his page much at all anymore, especially now that i don't see his statuses or activities on my feed.

[theravenflower]

If you want to not see his name anywhere on Facebook, block him. It's available through your privacy settings [Account > Privacy Settings > Block List], and (like everything else on FB) he'll never know you did it. You won't see his posts anymore, even comments on other people's pages.

[gammerus]

Thank you. I might have to do this.

[galelasa]

oh, duh. hehe, nice ;)