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[gammerus]

So talking with a friend at work, we've worked down my biggest issue, the one that is causing all my other ones, practically. I've always known it, but to have someone else recognize it helps me acknowledge it

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[schmidty3000]

Unfortunately, the only way to get over a fear is to face it head on.

For instance, I used to be deathly afraid of heights. Then theater happened, and I was climbing 20 feet into the air on a rickety ladder. Since then, I've felt safe on pretty much anything, save for one or two things that frighten most people as is.

Unfortunately, your fear is quite a bit more complicated. Success and failure are not mutually exclusive. Often times, it is impossible to succeed without failing along the way. Take Thomas Edison for example. Before finding the correct filament for the light bulb, he tried over 2000 different metals. That means that he failed over 2000 times before he succeeded in creating a lasting light bulb that would be affordable. Writer's fail all the time. They write and write, edit and edit, and often times put out thousands of pieces for publication, getting maybe three or four published

[galelasa]

Yeah, what Adam said. There's really no other choice. Either you're beaten by Fear, or you face it.

[schmidty3000]

And as Churchill said (I think it was Churchill), "There is nothing to fear but fear itself."

[siloriel]

Pretty sure it was FDR.

[schmidty3000]

DAMMIT!! I knew I was gonna get that one wrong.

Meh, FDR was a pussy. Couldn't even walk.

[siloriel]

Don't sweat the fear...I think everybody is that way, to a certain extent. You've just got to swallow the fear and know you're a cool person, and you can and will be good at things with enough practice. Don't wonder about it, don't evaluate it...just know. And if you don't know it, tell yourself you are, often. And eventually you will know it. Because, in my experience, confidence is also something that comes with practice.