It's what inside that counts.

Jun 22, 2009 22:12


It's what inside that counts.
I remember how adults used to say this too me and I'd roll my eyes since clearly they hadn't been teased the way I was being teased. Later as a teen I picked of the retort "It's what inside that counts? Oh that's just something sad ugly people say." If I was to be ugly at least I would not be deluded too.

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drjon June 23 2009, 02:21:43 UTC
It's worth remembering that people in general tend to be only superficially superficial.

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remix79 June 23 2009, 06:08:00 UTC
It's tough. Humanity is built upon our animal nature; animal nature comes first, and our human side comes second (generally speaking, I think). So it would appear you need to be capable as an animal first and a human being second, because we still respond at an animal level; power, fear, anger, greed, etc.

I don't know how to overcome our animal natures. That could be another question to ask, what best overcomes these negative reactions and emotions?

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remix79 June 23 2009, 06:34:33 UTC
Maybe talk about karma, or how behaviors evoke matching responses; if I'm angry and mean, I will most likely evoke those same responses. That's an animal thing, as well.

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rdmiller3 June 23 2009, 09:29:57 UTC
Tell them that even though they don't fit the TV version of "beauty", there are *SOME* people who think they're beautiful just the way they are. Even if they don't like the way they look, there are *SOME* people who *do*. Don't assume that anyone doesn't like you. Assume that they *do* like you until they tell you otherwise.

When I was 19, I happened to glance at a magazine vendor's stand and caught an eye-full of smut. I particularly remember that they were selling not one, but *several* different magazines featuring some of the heaviest women I had ever seen. Then it dawned on me... there are some people who *like* that. They like girls who look like that, enough to *pay* just to look at them. I didn't understand the attraction myself, but right there was concrete proof that some people did.

I can't imagine how anyone could think that *you* were ugly though. I remember your previous user-pics and I wish you had kept them along with your new ones. :-)

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dyingishate June 24 2009, 16:10:51 UTC
The external appearence of something and the internal workings of it both count for what they are. Sometimes somebody finds a deep sense of purpose in looking a certain way, and a lot of art is made for the soul purpose of appearence. Appearence is a beautiful thing and while it may not make the world go around, it makes the world a place worth going around. Appearence and functionality aren't more or less important than one another absolutely, because appearing a certain way can be somebody's function, and somebody's functionality can also be their appearence ( ... )

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