Volunteer response

[fushigi_na_chou]

~.: So I applied to be a volunteer with SOME (So Others Might Eat). They sent me a newsletter asking for donations and whatnot, and I realized that, while I can't donate my money, I can certainly donate my time. I read through the newsletter, which explained what their organization is all about, and it's pretty much everything I wish the government

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[hideincarnate]

That egg donating sounds VERY interesting. Let me know if you find one that jives well with you because I might also join in on this (maybe you get a bonus if I say you recommended me!).

My only reservation is that the child might grow up and then demand to know who I am when they come of a certain age, and I don't think I am mentally prepared for that.

[fushigi_na_chou]

I will definitely let you know! I think Layne's interested as well. :) As for the child wanting to know who you are, I think there are certain confidentiality laws the prevent the couple from tracking you down. Besides, it'll be up to the couple/parents if they even want to tell the child they were conceived using an egg donor.

[hideincarnate]

We all could use $6000 you know! ;D and these eggs aren't being used so why not donate them!

Hmmm alright. Because...I mean of course I want my OWN children someday - one conceived between me and a significant other - but I don't really want to be contacted by a child I never saw, or couldn't see without the aid of a microscope. You know?

To me, a child is MINE if I carry it to term and give birth to it. You know? I hope I don't sound evil or crazy.

[fushigi_na_chou]

No, you don't sound evil or crazy. The way it looks like it works is that once you donate your eggs, you sign a bunch of paperwork that says you relinquish any and all parental rights to the resulting child; unless you specifically include and agree upon a clause with the agency/couple regarding the child knowing you, I'm pretty sure the default is that they'll never know who you are. Generally, egg donors don't even meet the couples/women who receive their eggs.

[kendobunny]

Just be aware that it's much harder than it sounds. All sorts of things disqualify you, including any member of your immediate family having been diagnosed with cancer, heart disease, or mental illness, and you can be disqualified if any member of your immediate family had/has fertility trouble.

Even if my mom hadn't died of cancer and my sister hadn't been diagnosed bipolar, they wouldn't accept me because of my polycystic ovaries.

[fushigi_na_chou]

Well, thankfully, no one in my family has had any fertility issues, to my knowledge, and so far as I can tell, my ovaries are in perfect working condition. The only people in my family to have had cancer are my aunt, my dad's uncle, and one of my cousins. And then, I don't know if these places consider substance dependence to be a mental illness, but that aside, both of my parents are taking medication for either anxiety or depression. But we'll see. Depending on how the clinics in the area answer my "what happens to unused embryos" question, I may not even apply.