Oh noes, my Andi's broken! D8zekittyJune 9 2009, 10:50:06 UTC
Firstly: *hug!*
If I can get this right... David seems to think that because you stake no claim on him from the other side of the pond, this must mean you don't reciprocate his feelings (at least to the degree he does)? If so, I can understand why he might feel the way he does, but I can't relate, so my insight/advice may be crappy at best.
He may feel that you two are exclusive, even from opposite sides of the Atlantic, even if he's trying to deny/admit it out loud to himself. So when you actually mean what you say about staking no claim, he thinks, "B-but, wait! What about all our nice conversations? I know they're just conversations, but... GUH! They're conversations!" If you two have seriously discussed your thoughts about your relationship--that it can't really go beyond friends until you two visit--then it sounds to me like he's struggling with his true feelings and wants about your relationship.
For the record, I think your feelings on your relationship with him are perfectly logical, and it seems like the best path for now
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Re: Oh noes, my Andi's broken! D8fushigi_na_chouJune 9 2009, 11:36:12 UTC
I think you've basically got it right- at least, that's what it sounds like he's trying to say. Maybe I'm just being a brat. Because of what I said though, he's closing up, guarding his emotions. This is the part that confuses me. I mean, I guess it's just a reflex reaction for him- he can't help it. But that means all of our interactions from now until he opens up again will be different- they won't be the same. I was always acting under the assumption that we were just really good more than friend but not quite bf/gf, but I guess he was thinking there was something more, and so that just sort of shot him down? Guh, but see, I still don't see why that causes a person to close up~~ D: And I'm really trying. :(
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If I can get this right... David seems to think that because you stake no claim on him from the other side of the pond, this must mean you don't reciprocate his feelings (at least to the degree he does)? If so, I can understand why he might feel the way he does, but I can't relate, so my insight/advice may be crappy at best.
He may feel that you two are exclusive, even from opposite sides of the Atlantic, even if he's trying to deny/admit it out loud to himself. So when you actually mean what you say about staking no claim, he thinks, "B-but, wait! What about all our nice conversations? I know they're just conversations, but... GUH! They're conversations!" If you two have seriously discussed your thoughts about your relationship--that it can't really go beyond friends until you two visit--then it sounds to me like he's struggling with his true feelings and wants about your relationship.
For the record, I think your feelings on your relationship with him are perfectly logical, and it seems like the best path for now ( ... )
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