Yeah, Cabin Fever.

[furious_mold]

I have repeatedly told my nephew not to put one or two items in the washing machine on the FULL LOAD setting because it is an irresponsible waste of water and costs my father money. He continues to do so. This morning I found a damp dish towel and a pair of his socks in the machine, load setting at FULL. This has been going on for years. He

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[microbie]

How does nephew not react to the negative responses he (rightfully) elicits with his behavior? I guess that could be the neurological wiring up to a point, but I would think it would register that he's not getting what he wants/feels he deserves from life.

I'm sorry. This is an awful time to be stuck with someone who can't make life better/easier for others.

[furious_mold]

His response to anything, even calm constructive criticism is to become incredibly defensive.

It's been hard. For years. Harder now.

I saved him from ruining a pork tenderloin the other day - he was going to fry it in apple cider vinegar with capers in a pan. (Don't ask) I don't eat meat much at all, but knowing that my father was going to eat it, I had to intervene. I presented it as a "let's cook together and have fun" situation. I seasoned it, seared it in a pan, and continued to cook it in the oven. I kind of took over in the kitchen. My nephew was so offended, he refused to eat it. My father liked it and quietly thanked me for taking over.

This is how most situations go down with him.

[rhiannonrising]

I'm so sorry you have to deal with this. I wonder why he's so triggered by the laundry/water issue when he's perfectly OK with recycling. Maybe that's the Asperger's part: random triggers. I have no idea.

I hope he can get the help he needs. Ideally, he could telecon with a therapist. Sounds like he wouldn't be willing to do that though. :(

[furious_mold]

I'm not sure he would. I can suggest it at some point, but I would have to do it carefully.