Geeze I am just so sick of not having a girlfriend!!

[mr_bsmooth]

Everyone keeps saying wait and be patient how the hell am I suppose to be patient when all my friends get girls or have girls already, I don' like seeing that its bs and just not fair. I don't even wanna here wait screw that....... its shouldn't take this much for me considering I am a decent guy.

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[hellaweasels]

Did you mean to post this here?

And, in regards, to your last sentence, just because you're a "decent guy" doesn't mean women are obligated to go out with you. You have to bring something more to the table than just being "decent".

[slinkslowdown]

+1 to all of this

[mr_bsmooth]

Why you say that?

[mr_bsmooth]

Well obviously I have a lot to offer FYI, and yes I did I am a trans male where else is it gonna go.

[clarinetfear]

Girls are not something to be gotten or had, so if this is your attitude, then quite frankly I'm not surprised that you haven't found someone yet.

[mr_bsmooth]

Didn't I just say I have alot to offer you obviously missed that.

[eustacecscrubb]

Girls aren't interchangeable. Do you just want "a girl" or do you want to be with a person that you connect with, likes you, and has unique qualities that make you two a good match? If you want to be with a person that fits with you, then yeah, it might take a while. It sucks, but that's life, which is definitely not fair, you're right.

If you just want "a girl", then I don't think you're ready for a relationship with a human being who has her own perspective and needs. Get a fleshlight or a vibrator or a blow-up doll instead.

Also, for your consideration, the problem with "nice guys": http://www.doctornerdlove.com/2012/12/problem-nice-guys/

[mr_bsmooth]

You guys have a everything twisted I want a girl friend you guys must of not have read the whole thing I am not ass I wanna girl I can treat right. FYI I don't use vibes thats nasty and so is a blow up doll.

[eustacecscrubb]

Wow, really

[mr_bsmooth]

I mean I still have feelings for that one girl I came here about and she is accepting but I feel like I am no competition for other guys no matter how handsome or toned muscle wise I might be.

[leesquared]

Being a decent guy doesn't somehow earn you a woman. It's a bare minimum requirement.

I'm not sure what you think of as doing "this much," but if you want dating/getting out there advice, I'm sure someone here has tips. If you just want to complain that somehow women aren't coming out of everywhere to make out with you (like an Axe ad), then I don't think you'll get much sympathy here.

[mr_bsmooth]

You must of not read my most post, I clearly stated that I wanna give my all and tha I have alot to offer. And its fustrating when no one will take it you don't even know half the store for why I get pisses offed at other guys who have gfs its not about how many girls I can pull I just want one I am sorry you that you can't read apparently.

[eustacecscrubb]

"I just want one"

Nope, you don't view girls as interchangeable objects at all.

Jesus.

[varanus]

I sympathize with your frustration. I really do. Dating can be hard, especially when it seems like everyone around you is having more success. It's especially frustrating when you look at those friends and can't figure out why the women around you seem to think they're so much more appealing than you are. And, of course, there is the trans issue, which can be a really shitty roadblock.

That said, here's my advice: stop thinking of girls as something to "get." I'm not just saying this because of feminism (though all the people who remind you that you can't "earn" a woman, nor do you "deserve" one since they're not prizes given out are totally right). I'm saying this because women notice that attitude and it creeps most of them out (the ones whom it doesn't creep out are usually so damaged in other ways that they bring a world of hurt into your life). Everyone can smell desperation and anger, and they don't smell pretty at all.

[mr_bsmooth]

Thats not how I think of girls again I am not like that. There was nothing in that post that said I think of girls as prizes or objects I am 17 years old I don't veiw stuff like that how others do.

[hellaweasels]

Your entire post says you think about girls as prizes or objects.

"Everyone keeps saying wait and be patient how the hell am I suppose to be patient when all my friends get girls or have girls already, I don' like seeing that its bs and just not fair. I don't even wanna here wait screw that....... its shouldn't take this much for me considering I am a decent guy."

I've bolded the relative part. Your friends having girlfriends while you don't isn't "not fair". This isn't a competition or preschool. Women are not trophies to be won; they are people.

[mr_bsmooth]

My post does not imply that, You should have asked before you assumed.