Geeze I am just so sick of not having a girlfriend!!

[mr_bsmooth]

Everyone keeps saying wait and be patient how the hell am I suppose to be patient when all my friends get girls or have girls already, I don' like seeing that its bs and just not fair. I don't even wanna here wait screw that....... its shouldn't take this much for me considering I am a decent guy.

Comments

[eustacecscrubb]

Wow, really?

First, vibes and blow-up dolls aren't "nasty"--plenty of people use them to get off. Reconsider your prejudices.

Second, the way you wrote your post (and your response) makes it sound like you just want "a girl." Fine, if that's what you want.

But. Consider the difference between what you wrote and if you'd written this:

"I'm really lonely. I see my friends in relationships and I really want someone I can be with. I've been trying to meet someone by getting involved in social groups, and I've asked some girls out, but I haven't had any luck finding someone to date. Anyone have some advice? I really want to find someone who is smart, understands my situation as a trans guy, and likes sports."

See the difference? (1) this asked a question so people know you didn't accidentally just post to your journal but are writing something to get input, (2) you explained what--or rather WHO--you want and what you've been doing to find her, and are specific about who you want to be with.

So here are some questions for you:
1. What kind of girl do you want to be with? Do you know? Where do you think you could find someone like her?
2. What have you been doing to meet girls? Do you have girls who are your friends that you can talk to about this? Do they have feedback for you?
3. What are you doing in the meantime to help with your feelings? Do you have friends you can hang out with? Activities to keep you focused on what's positive in your life?

You say you don't want to hear "wait", okay, fine, but do you want to hear feedback about how your actions/attitude might be contributing? If a bunch of different people all got the same message from your post, chances are, the message is coming across to other people. If you really want a girlfriend, consider that we're not just hearing things, but that you may be sending a message that is hurting your chances.

If you just want to vent, put that shit on your personal journal and not here.