Coming out to partner

[evidence_lost]

Hey guys, this got a bit long but I really need some advice about coming out to my boyfriend, who sees me as a cis female. I'm 18, he's 20 and we've just started going out. I'm out to a few friends at uni but I haven't started trying to pass yet. I'm seeing a gender psychologist in my vac, who will refer me to an endo. Hopefully I'll be starting T

Comments

[mutated_queer]

I think you pretty much know what you want to say. So it's a case of putting it into action. A big part of that is working up the courage to come out with it. There's no magic way to make it easier and I don't think there's any way to make it feel easier. Though it sounds like it's best to tell him ASAP so he has as much time as possible to get himself used to the idea before you start T. Other than that I'm not sure what to say other than the general coming out tips- a time when you are both calm and sober and be mentally ready to deal with different reactions and/or questions. Remember that for all you seem to expect him to be all right with it, it still might take him a little thinking so allow him that.

[the_physicist]

it was insanely difficult for me, but it sounds like you are in a better place. there's not much for it but to tell him. it sounds like you know what you have to say to him. good luck.