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malfoythefarret in ftm

Cross posted in transparents

Jan 01, 2007 16:02

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legal issues, family, policy changes, social issues-stealth, having children

Comments 8

chachakai January 1 2007, 16:49:28 UTC

Hey There ( ... )

Sorry this is so long..... anonymous January 1 2007, 17:05:12 UTC

I'm post transition and my wife and I are foster/adoptive parents here in the U.S. We completed the entire process domestically. My birth status has never come up and 2 years later we're pretty sure it won't. Although we are with an agency that is GLBT friendly we chose not to disclose my status. We have fostered several sets of kids through our house and we are currently in the process of adopting a set of 4 siblings.(yes 4 and yes we are crazy) We have a transman friend who is currently going through his own process but for an overseas adoption. And I think we had it easier and most certainly cheaper. Although it's intrusive either way, if you take usual precautions and "ad-lib" a bit on your history you should be ok.
Our initial application took us over 11 hours to complete. And here in our state we have mandatory 60 hours of initial training classes with 40 annually, psych evals, home studies, financials, etc to complete even before they decide if you are accepted as a foster/adopt parent ( ... )

icarus_after January 1 2007, 18:03:48 UTC

i've done a lot of research on this as i plan to adopt domestically in the next three years. unfortunately, there's a real dearth of information. i can manage to dig up info on "glbt" adoption, but this is a case where glb issues are far and away different from t ones, and that stuff is usally not helpful at all. my plan right now is to find glbt friendly adoption lawyers and contact them to see if they have any information, and also to look into programs like lambda legal and the transgender law center ( ... )

icarus_after January 1 2007, 18:34:30 UTC

We adopted throught our state public system ie:Childrens Protective Service(CPS) where when the children are finally legally adoptable the birth family has lost ALL rights to the children due to severe emotional, physical, sexual or neglectful abuse. We don't have any contact with the birth family or the extended birth family at all. Our children are also older kids(2-7 years)
I should have made that clear. Thanks for pointing that out.

smilesweetirony January 1 2007, 19:47:14 UTC

have you considered running a background check on yourself to see what comes up? wouldn't include medical records, and would still be expensive, but it might help you see what your "investigators" at the adoption agency would have to work with.

anonymous January 1 2007, 20:49:59 UTC

The only family I consider to be my own, are a trans couple, he is ftm, she is mtf. They are both mostly stealth in their lives ( ... )