Sorry this is so long.....
anonymous
January 1 2007, 17:05:12 UTC
I'm post transition and my wife and I are foster/adoptive parents here in the U.S. We completed the entire process domestically. My birth status has never come up and 2 years later we're pretty sure it won't. Although we are with an agency that is GLBT friendly we chose not to disclose my status. We have fostered several sets of kids through our house and we are currently in the process of adopting a set of 4 siblings.(yes 4 and yes we are crazy) We have a transman friend who is currently going through his own process but for an overseas adoption. And I think we had it easier and most certainly cheaper. Although it's intrusive either way, if you take usual precautions and "ad-lib" a bit on your history you should be ok. Our initial application took us over 11 hours to complete. And here in our state we have mandatory 60 hours of initial training classes with 40 annually, psych evals, home studies, financials, etc to complete even before they decide if you are accepted as a foster/adopt parent. We started the mandatory classes with 28 couples and only 6 made it through that. People got booted for a variety of reasons and dysfunction rears its ugly head during the training. So if you have underlying issues that fuck up any aspect of your life fix them first. Domestically they didn't ask us for official medical records just our medical history. And again, I chose not to disclose what surgeries(6) I've had or how many, as we heard too many surgeries could disqualify you. My buddy who is trying to adopt overseas has had a longer process I think and with more disappointment due to the international cultures and miscommunication involved. He has spent over 30,000 to our 5-10,000. My wife and I live in a RED southern state and are aware that if my trans status comes to light we could be in for a fight and we were willing to accept that in the beginning...but now that we are further along, we'd fight until we had to(maybe)flee the country. We're not going to risk our family over the stupid politics of this country and it's archaic laws on what makes a family and who should love who and only certain kinds of people make good parents.
Our initial application took us over 11 hours to complete. And here in our state we have mandatory 60 hours of initial training classes with 40 annually, psych evals, home studies, financials, etc to complete even before they decide if you are accepted as a foster/adopt parent.
We started the mandatory classes with 28 couples and only 6 made it through that. People got booted for a variety of reasons and dysfunction rears its ugly head during the training. So if you have underlying issues that fuck up any aspect of your life fix them first. Domestically they didn't ask us for official medical records just our medical history. And again, I chose not to disclose what surgeries(6) I've had or how many, as we heard too many surgeries could disqualify you. My buddy who is trying to adopt overseas has had a longer process I think and with more disappointment due to the international cultures and miscommunication involved.
He has spent over 30,000 to our 5-10,000.
My wife and I live in a RED southern state and are aware that if my trans status comes to light we could be in for a fight and we were willing to accept that in the beginning...but now that we are further along, we'd fight until we had to(maybe)flee the country. We're not going to risk our family over the stupid politics of this country and it's archaic laws on what makes a family and who should love who and only certain kinds of people make good parents.
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