Adoption

[freakwoman]

There is a girl I know who is gushing about adoption, and how she and her partner are really looking forward to it, and how they are going to adopt from overseas if they can, and how adoption is omg the best thing ever. I am really struggling with keeping my mouth shut, as I have Opinions. Its really hard to communicate about adoption for me. It

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[elanya]

It is possible that she has looked at these things, but they are not the sorts of things she is excited about and that she is less likely to talk to co-workers about them? Or is she really just a little naive?

I am not sure what all you mean about "our cultures ideas of adoption" or what exactly it is you really don't like about it. I mean, I know how poorly it worked out for you, and I know other adoptees who also had unfortunate experiences, but I am curious to hear what you think about it more broadly.

You could ask her about it, I suppose - whether she has read much about the experiences of adopted children, and from what sources, sort of thing? You could maybe point her at stuff and couch it in terms of giving her resources that would be helpful when dealing with her adoptive children down the line, maybe? I don't really know what there is out there for resources.

[freakwoman]

She makes a lot of little comments that come across as really uninformed, but I might be just sensitive. When asked if she considered the foster care system her response was that "those kids probably have a lot of problems, and when you adopt a baby you can decide how much to tell them about their before lives". (which is when I walked away and got really really interested in scrubbing things down

[elanya]

*hugs*

I think you expressed yourself very well, and thank you! Gotta run to work, so I can't reply more :3