feeling lonely

[fear_inferi]

does anyone else find life at home lonely? Im married with no kids and although i do have friends i feel like we have not much in common anymore because of me being at home and them being at work/uni whatever

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[botia]

Do you have any pets? My felines keep me company when I'm alone. I also foster kittens for a local rescue, and it is very fulfilling.

[fear_inferi]

no, i would love to have a dog though but im always scared because we like going on holiday and someday i would like to do some longer term travellin, dont know if that will ever happen but its still in my goal list for life!

[ilikerivers]

I foster too and it helps keep me sane (or insane, but amused:))

[pixelmonster]

My hubby and I were polyamorous before I was diagnosed so it's never been a problem for us, but I do have close emotional relationships with men other than my husband that have not gotten physical. I am also disabled and always at home so I do find myself prone to caring more than perhaps I should for those who I do spend time with and who visit me often, they like me too, but cannot deal with the fact I am married and I respect that, tho it dissapoints my hubby a little. However, my deepest emotional attachment are long-distance and with my first boyfriend from high school still. I am currently on flirting cease and desist as I am involved in too many close friendships and of course, a wonderful marriage!

[fear_inferi]

i will be honest and say i had to look for a definition of polyamorous because its a word i have never even heard before.
can you clarify for me, what disappoints your hubby? maybe im having a bad foggy day, is it that he would rather you cared less for these other friends?

[pixelmonster]

No, he is dissapointed that I am rejected simply because I am married, and sometimes it is b/c I am married to him and he is a large intimidating redhead, LOL!. He does not mind that I care for others at all. It makes him happy for me, and likewise I, for him.

[fear_inferi]

i have to say that as a concept i just dont understand. Obviously it works for alot of people but i dont think it would be for me, have you never had jealousy issues? never mind finding the time...

[owowowow]

I feel lonely all the time when I'm having fibro issues (which seem to be all the time now). I actually do live alone. I have pets - 3 dogs, 1 cat and 10 fish. :) I work at home so, I don't get any human interaction during the day and then it's evening. I go to my yoga classes and my city planning meetings but, the people meet are so involved in their own lives, that I don't even get a chance to be attracted to anyone. As a 56 year old who's 14 year relationship ended 4 years ago, I wish I could meet someone but, then I think of my health issues and I give up on that thought.

Ow

[mkiero]

Don't give up. I never thought anyone would want to date a disabled single mother. I managed to get dates, and many relationships ended because of the stress of being with someone who is sick all the time.

[mkiero]

I have had crushes certainly and even flirt. However, I always make it very clear that while I enjoy their company I'm not going to do anything to endanger my relationship with my husband.

Nothing wrong with getting the engine started as long as you aren't going for a test spin with anyone. It can depend on where your relationship boundaries are too. I know for some even talking about intimate things and flirting is cheating, while for others it takes much more to be considered cheating.

However, I have to say that marriages for the chronically ill take much more work than other marriages. There is this constant drain on your relationship and you have to work harder with your partner. My husband never realized how much my fibro was affecting me until we moved in with one another. He is often in the role of caregiver and I work with him to send him out to be with other people and not worry about how much work he'll have when he gets home.

[smileygem]

I have a great marriage and no intention of going outside it
BUT I do agree it gets very lonely )O: