I'm in a management level and I'm almost 30. I'm telling you right now that the only thing I can think about is saving enough money to start my own busines so that I don't have to deal with this shit every day anymore. It's maddening. I do have to also say that a little bit of age helps too. I can't wait to actually be 30. It seems like, as a woman, that is the magic age when people start to take you seriously and not view you solely as an Emotional Little Girl.
Ah, but you forget! According to the cosmopolitan magazine, 40 is the new 30! You might have to wait ten more years!
Seriously, however... I've noticed that, too, as a customer. Women about 30 or over are deferred to and anyone younger is ignored, laughed out, or treated like a puppy.
i work in the evenings at a doctors office, and the cleaning guy always pops his head in and says 'goodnight ladies' - it drives me fucking mad.
it rubs me the wrong way. something about that word makes me feel tiny and useless and cute and icky.
i haven't worked many jobs, i haven't had many negative work experiences as far as men/sexism goes, but if it's bothering you that bad, and if your manager is in on it too, then maybe you could look for a new job -- i mean, you should just be able to tell them 'listen, this and that and when you do this.. it makes me really uncomfortable. can you please respect me and my space?' if they don't respect that, you should leave, after reporting your manager.
I quit the job with the manager. I got tired of his shit/the job and found another. The new one i'm at is the one where the supervisor checks me out all the damned time.
I must add that even though my boss was on my manager's ass to quit bothering me, he kept at it and my boss stood idly by with a "oh well, i tried" look on his face. I, unfortunately, have neither the time nor the energy to be involved in the bs a complaint to a higher power than my ex-boss entails. It's tempting, but i'm busy as hell as it is..
You know, the mod probably froze replies on that because none were wanted...
Anyway, I had a boss come and put his arm around me once. I got out from under his reach and made it clear to him that touching me was not okay. He respected that from then on. A lot of times if you just stand up for yourself, it'll stop. I know it sounds too easy, but it's really true. You may have to do it multiple times for it to stick in some cases.
And if someone stupid-jokes you, just give them a blank stare. Don't do the polite laugh thing. That'll work on a lot of people.
I haven't had it that bad in that I've never been physically touched...I'm a lawyer in Northern NH. I do criminal defense. There are no female prosecutors or police officers. All the court officers are men. The judges are all men. I get teased a lot. A LOT. Like every 5 seconds. And I am the resident "kid" because I'm younger than the next youngest person by abou 10 years.
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Seriously, however... I've noticed that, too, as a customer. Women about 30 or over are deferred to and anyone younger is ignored, laughed out, or treated like a puppy.
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it rubs me the wrong way.
something about that word makes me feel tiny and useless and cute and icky.
i haven't worked many jobs, i haven't had many negative work experiences as far as men/sexism goes, but if it's bothering you that bad, and if your manager is in on it too, then maybe you could look for a new job -- i mean, you should just be able to tell them 'listen, this and that and when you do this.. it makes me really uncomfortable. can you please respect me and my space?' if they don't respect that, you should leave, after reporting your manager.
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It's tempting, but i'm busy as hell as it is..
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Please email the moderators if you do not understand why such terms are inappropriate for a feminist forum.
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Anyway, I had a boss come and put his arm around me once. I got out from under his reach and made it clear to him that touching me was not okay. He respected that from then on. A lot of times if you just stand up for yourself, it'll stop. I know it sounds too easy, but it's really true. You may have to do it multiple times for it to stick in some cases.
And if someone stupid-jokes you, just give them a blank stare. Don't do the polite laugh thing. That'll work on a lot of people.
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