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[notacrnflkgirl]

Before I delve, you ought to know that my school recently adopted a new, stricter dress code. One of the many things now banned are shirts that are blatantly discriminating or otherwise hurtful

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[sophiaserpentia]

Sounds like "biting satire" to me. The sexist entitlement it mocks is certainly offensive.

[notacrnflkgirl]

I'm not sure if s/he was serious or not. But wearing that in school? I know some students who comes from abusive homes, and it just doesn't seem appropriate at all, satirical or not.

[meow]

i agree and for that reason, i want that shirt!

[robynchick]

Why would it matter his/her (etc.) sex? A crime, sexual or otherwise, is still a crime regardless of sex...

[notacrnflkgirl]

Just wondering if you'd find it more upsetting if a boy or girl wore the shirt. Just curiosity.

[robynchick]

oh, I see what you meant. Equally upsetting then.

[notacrnflkgirl]

I had a feeling. Thank you for understanding. :)

[evil_laugher]

It does sound like satire. I doubt if someone was being sued due to some domestic violence or whatever this is, they wouldn't advertise it on a t-shirt.

[notacrnflkgirl]

No, I don't think it was meant to signify a real-life lawsuit s/he was experiencing...I just think it was absurd to find it appropriate at all, since it clearly insinuates domestic abuse and manipulation.

[smrtblnddiver]

Interesting, I didn't even think domestic violence when I read it (and I'm a DV volunteer). I thought rape. Man pressures woman to have sex with the "if you love, you will" mentality. Then she presses charges.

[notacrnflkgirl]

...And I didn't even consider that interpretation! I suppose that quote can work both ways. (Even so, icky.)

[notacrnflkgirl]

Exactly!

[raevyyn]

In the US, the state presses charges against the abuser, so the victim (survivor) would never be able to drop the charges, even if she wanted to.

[nuclearmse]

The state can choose to prosecute despite the wishes of the victim of any crime, but they grant crime victims some choice in many cases. And cases often fall apart when a victim of domestic violence or rape refuses to cooperate by testifying.

[greenpuppy]

I'm not necessarily incredibly offended by it, but I don't think it's appropriate in a high school (which, I'm assuming by your age and the fact that there's a dress code, is what we're talking about). Just like I'm not offended by shirts promoting cigarettes or alchohol, but I think they are not appropriate in some environments.

If you see the person wearing it again, I'd suggest you draw the attention of a teacher to it.

[notacrnflkgirl]

Yup, I'm a high school student. (Class of 2006, hooray!) I agree: Out on the street, or maybe even in a mall, I probably wouldn't feel the same. But knowing that it's an inner-city school with lots of children from violent homes...it kind of bugs me.

[matcha]

I agree with this cause.