Moral Support

[rhonwyyn]

Ugh. Gotta love families. Putting this under a cut in case there's anything triggering.

Comments

[salix_03]

Let her unfriend you - friend me instead! Sorry I can't be of any actual help :( My family suck too, have yet to figure out what to do about it.

[rhonwyyn]

You are so sweet. Thank you for your kind words. :-)

[offthiscentury]

Can I have a referral to your doctors? Haha. Given as she's your sister, I don't want to say anything too mean, but I am sure as hell thinking some rude stuff. You sound like you have an amazing life that you love, and honestly, if she can't find it in herself to care about you because you're apparently about to drop dead regardless of, you know, actual health issues, it sounds like she just wants an excuse to not care and continue belittling you. I really don't have any advice for getting thru to her unfortunately, other than dealing with her as little as possible, letting her know that you're avoiding her because she decided to be a terrible human being to you, and hoping that she comes to her senses at some point and if not educates herself then at least keeps her bigoted thoughts to herself

[rhonwyyn]

If you live in southcentral PA, sure! I don't know how I've been so blessed to have such awesome doctors.

[thespian]

Ok, I will tell you two things

[vanillafluffy]

Armistead Maupin refers to people having their biological family and their logical family.

Yes!!! Unfriend sis if you have to, maybe short-term as a warning that you're not going to put up with her foolishness.

I always roll my eyes at that "You're going to die of FAT!" nonsense, because I could die tomorrow from being hit by a bus or struck by lightning or mauled by a pack of wild dogs---the point beingm, they don't know, nobody does. Life is a crapshoot.

Hang out with people who care about you and don't judge. It'll stress you out less, and that's bound to be healthier for you in the long run. Family is NOT just about biology.

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[rhonwyyn]

She already unfriended my husband and me. (She's never really liked my spouse because he calls her on her bulls**t.) I'm curious about what will make her add me back. I mean, how will she know that I've stopped posting FA links if she's not my friend?

And of course I'm not going to stop posting FA links. This has only confirmed that I really need to keep posting. Maybe it'll eventually get through her someone's head. :-)

[rhonwyyn]

Oh, and I meant to say, "yes, totally" to the bit about things other than fat being the cause of death. I almost wish she or her boyfriend would get hurt by something to prove to her that "hey! you can die by other measures; being fat is not a death sentence."

[rock_grrl]

There's a big difference between being concerned because someone you love has health problems and wanting people to treat fat people with respect. One does not equal the other

[cuntishness]

"There's a big difference between being concerned because someone you love has health problems and wanting people to treat fat people with respect. "

THIS!

[rhonwyyn]

Because I'm not wasting mental energy on being "concerned about my health," she thinks I'm in denial. It frustrates her to no end that I'm not miserable or self-conscious like she is. Instead of asking what my secret is, she wants to drag me down.

She's unfriended me, and that's OK. Your first statement is so right on. Thanks so much for your support.

[curvybabe180]

My younger sister is the same way. She is 5' and completely panics if she ever gets above a size 0 so she cannot understand how I can be a size 28. She is also exercise obsessed and does not eat meat (but does eat seafood, eggs and dairy

[rhonwyyn]

Yes! Your situation is totally my twin! The temper, the shape obsession, her dislike of my spouse - our stories are sooo similar.

I'm not stressing about her messages last night. I just am clueless about what triggered it. It was kind of out of the blue, and it felt like she had all this angst built up and just dumped it all out at once. So weird!