I can't help with that, sometimes I feel the same --- that I can't rely on anyone but myself. But events have proven me wrong time and again... it's just that I try not to depend on that happening, hence being absolutely grateful when it does happen.
It's hard to trust people but the pay-offs for the few who prove themselves trustworthy are gold. *hugs*
it's just that I try not to depend on that happening, hence being absolutely grateful when it does happen. I feel somewhat the same I think. I am always relieved help was offered after it was asked for.
Definitely weighty and hard lessons to learn. When my parents were teaching the lessons you mentioned, they usually did so with encouragement rather than harshness though. This probably stems from your mother's life experiences and she thought it was important for you to learn. It was her way of caring for you. You take that advice, and through trial and error, you find out what works for you in your life
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As for rejection, it's always hard to deal with that. No matter how much I try to prepare myself for it, it stings and it causes me to withdraw for a while. I just try to deal with it the best way I can and not to let it get me down. I don't get rejected that often actually. One is because I don't ask much, and also because of my meek manners, I got brushed off or ignored a lot when I was younger. The thing for me is that I go through all of those scenarios in my head (more like a flash after countless times) every time before I asked for help, so it sort of felt like I have already been rejected, then I asked again.
The situation with your aunt does sound a bit strange, but I guess it's too soon to jump to conclusion just from a card. It's natural I think to be reluctant to let our guard down, given that we are in the type of society where the overriding principle is everyone for themselves.
I really hope that that things improve for you. *hugs*Thanks! :) I am not in a really bad state actually. The fact that I can write this out
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It's hard to trust people but the pay-offs for the few who prove themselves trustworthy are gold. *hugs*
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I feel somewhat the same I think. I am always relieved help was offered after it was asked for.
Thanks Anya! *hugs back*
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I don't get rejected that often actually. One is because I don't ask much, and also because of my meek manners, I got brushed off or ignored a lot when I was younger. The thing for me is that I go through all of those scenarios in my head (more like a flash after countless times) every time before I asked for help, so it sort of felt like I have already been rejected, then I asked again.
The situation with your aunt does sound a bit strange, but I guess it's too soon to jump to conclusion just from a card. It's natural I think to be reluctant to let our guard down, given that we are in the type of society where the overriding principle is everyone for themselves.
I really hope that that things improve for you. *hugs*Thanks! :) I am not in a really bad state actually. The fact that I can write this out ( ... )
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