Okay, now I'm pissed...

[evilgrins]

...was actually calm, if totally lost, before that email.

Since the last post I've been getting sporadic bits of info on this (not to mention I should be able to see a post I clearly can't) but it was the email that was most helpful...

...thanks by the way; you know who you are.

This is apparently the post

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[it_gurl]

Oh drama! What fun! *pops popcorn to watch the drama*

[evilgrins]

I've managed rather successfully to be completely drama free for a few years now...till the last 2 months anyway.

[everetteseven]

i think it's interesting that you see this move as childish. protecting oneself from emotional turmoil is never childish. and i don't think anyone should have to defend the way they choose to protect themselves.

[evilgrins]

the only emotional turmoil that's been going on, minus this vent above, has been from her towards me...but I don't ban people.

[everetteseven]

whatever. i do.

[evilgrins]

...uhm...okay

[prokrstn8r]

Sounds like she's been upset with you for a while deep down and not letting you in on it, whether you actually did something at BayCon or not.

I think the fact that you didn't NOTICE that she was upset was because she wasnt' showing you...she was probably trying to get over it herself and play nice and try to be friends with you.

And you do tend to have a caustic presence sometimes...you push buttons far worse and far more often than I think you mean to/realize.

That can wear someone down to the breaking point, especially if she was already somewhat cheesed.

It was totally wrong of her to not tell you that something was bothering her, though.

And I may be wrong; after all I don't know her at all, but this is just my interpretation of what I see.

She doesn't happen to be particularly young, does she? I mean, I assume she's over 18, but is she, say, under 22?

[evilgrins]

And you do tend to have a caustic presence sometimes...you push buttons far worse and far more often than I think you mean to/realize.

not to people I like I don't and I really like her

the BC thing doesn't make sense on another level either, which is why I maintain that memory has nothing to do with me. at the meetings most folks are playing on their computers (games and movies and stuff) and having little conversations amongst themselves even when the main speaker is going on about something; I never give them any grief for it. We're a fairly loose crowd.

She did tell me I was bothering her, kind of in an X-Files sorta way, back when with the other things. It's involved and I was intending to post on it but didn't and I may now; in a bad mood so this is not the time to decide that. It was just that she was saying stuff that had nothing to do with anything. Calls me and asks me to do something online but it's really busy at work and I can't so she says clearly I want to be her enemy and hangs up on me. That was more surreal than

[evilgrins]

actually, she's either a year older than me or several months...though that's not saying much as I tend to act like I'm 12 on a good day; 2 on a bad one

[prokrstn8r]

there are different levels on which one can act really young.

From what you say, her behavior hints at an emotional disorder.

But seeing as you said you don't like her that much, and she's obviously behaving inappropriately, losing her friendship shouldn't be that big of a deal, right?

[rodshark]

*Hugs* I know how sucky it can be when someone you care about and thought cared about you bans you over miscommunication or a misunderstanding. Hopefully you will get a chance to talk to her and at least find out whats going on and clear up any misunderstanding between you two.

From the posts I have seen between you two, there didn't seem to be any animosity or "grating of the nerves" or anything. Hopefully someone isn't pretending to be you and stirring up shit :(

[evilgrins]

gotta admit I'm keeping a slim hope that she's only intending this to be online but in the real world things are cool...guess I'll call her after work to see

[ms_will_b_happy]

Yes call her. You're probably right, it's probably just a misunderstanding and mistaken identity.

[evilgrins]

One would heop but it's hard to see how she could mistake someone for me when the thing she's talking about was in the real world and right next to her.

Not many folks look like me.

[ex_aria_sta]

Something worse happened to me. Daniel dumped me in a PUBLIC LJ entry after banning me and setting it so only friends could reply. The entries was full of cruel, vicious, hateful lies and everyone I knew was able to read it and I could only watch helplessly as people I thought were friends started to slam me when I wasn't able to defend myself. The humiliation and hurt and stress this caused landed me in the hospital via ambulance. And he didn't care. What he did affected me health so severely and he absolutely didn't care.

I don't believe in writing something negative about someone online and then not letting them have their right to say something, especially in a public entry. I don't even make general friends-only entries without allowing the person to read and speak. Only a couple times have I blocked someone from reading, but those entries were for only my closest friends, three people.

Nor would I unfriend someone without telling them why and seeing if we can work out our problems.

[watch4whales]

I don't really know you THAT well, but maybe something was said she took the wrong way and since then has just been lingering and she hasn't brought it up but dwelled on it since then.

And it depends on the person and their personality. Since I don't know you that well I'll just say some of what you post makes me roll my eyes and would border on creepy in a ..... sexual creepy way. I don't really know how else to say it. But then...I don't know her at all.

[evilgrins]

going to assume you're saying this to me and not her, hard to tell, but here's what I've got on that. The lady I'm posting on here is at least as sexual as I am. there's reasons for why I say this, stuff having to do with her life and the like, that I won't go into but trust me...they way I am is what actually got her to want us together.

[watch4whales]

Yes to you....

Have to agree though on the - say something before it gets to the point that you have to end a friendship if there's something wrong.